Showing posts with label Life Lesson. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Life Lesson. Show all posts

Wednesday, March 14, 2018

Satu Kata untuk Taiwan

Semua hal itu ada ‘image’-nya. Mulai dari warna, produk, orang, hingga negara, pasti ada gambaran atau pesan yang ingin disampaikan. Image Taiwan dimata saya dalam satu kata itu adalah dewasa. Taiwan itu tenang, fokus dan rendah hati. Dewasa sekali, bukan?

Yang saya perhatikan selama kuliah di Taiwan ini adalah hampir semua dosen disini jarang berpakaian formal ketika lab meeting, mengajar, maupun menguji sidang. Mereka nyaman dengan pakaian kasual mereka. Terlihat sekali mereka berpegang teguh prinsip ‘don’t judge the book by its cover’. Mereka dengan tenang dan yakin bahwa penampilan bukanlah ukuran yang utama dalam menilai orang lain. Mereka percaya kemampuan mereka tetap mampu terpancar keluar dibalik penampilan mereka yang santai. Ini membuat saya nyaman sekali menjadi minioritas dengan memakai hijab. Bahkan keputusan untuk memakai hijab ini ada ketika saya di Taiwan. Saya yakin bahwa mereka tidak akan menyimpulkan sesuatu tentang saya hanya karena penampilan saya.

Indonesia dan Taiwan memang sama-sama memiliki budaya interdependen yang lebih dominan, dibandingkan dengan budaya barat yang dominan dengan budaya independennya. Tapi, Taiwan ini memiliki nilai budaya independen yang lebih tinggi dari Indonesia. Saya melihat dan merasakan bahwa orang Taiwan lebih fokus terhadap diri mereka sendiri. Mereka tidak ingin tau semua urusan pribadi orang lain. Hanya beberapa dosen dan temen lab saya yang bertanya tentang urusan pribadi saya. Semakin lama saya di Taiwan, saya merasa semakin sama pola pikir saya dengan mereka. Saya menjadi fokus dengan diri saya sendiri dan tidak terlalu memikirkan orang lain. Ini yang menguatkan saya selama saya menjalani kuliah ini. Saya fokus menyelesaikan kuliah saya, walaupun teman-teman yang lain tidak melakukan hal yang sama dengan saya. Saya percaya tiap orang punya jalannya masing-masing.

Secara negara, Taiwan ini dibatasi ruang geraknya dengan ‘One China Policy’. Tapi ini tidak membuat Taiwan berhenti bersinar. Taiwan menjadi salah satu negara yang unggul dalam bidang teknologi dan ramah lingkungan. Namun, Taiwan sadar bahwa mereka akan selalu menjadi nomer 2. Secara natural, kesadaran ini membuat mereka menjadi rendah hati dan tidak sombong.  Saya kagum dengan orang-orang Taiwan yang dengan tulus dan sungguh-sungguh menolong orang asing. Saya dengan bahasa Mandarin yang terbatas, mereka dengan bahasa Inggris yang terbata-bata dan kita yang saling mengandalkan bahasa tubuh dan google translate, tidak menghentikan mereka untuk berbuat baik terhadap saya dan orang asing lainnya. Ini hal yang jarang ditemui di negara maju lainnya dan inilah yang membuat Taiwan special dimata orang asing. Ini membuat saya berfikir bahwa kita perlu dengan pintar memutar kekurangan kita menjadi kelebihan. Kita semua lahir dengan kekurangan dan sering kali kekurangan tersebut tidak bisa diperbaiki. Tapi, akan ada kelebihan dibalik kekurangan tersebut, seperti kata pepatah ‘every coin has its two sides’. Kita harus terus berkembang dengan menggunakan kelebihan yang kita punya.

Terima kasih Taiwan yang telah membantu saya untuk berpenampilan, bersikap, dan berfikir lebih dewasa.

Friday, April 3, 2015

My first race!

About 19 months ago I wrote about jogging and how much I had improved ("practice makes perfect"). I keep on jogging ever since and it improves bit by bit until I have this thought of entering a marathon race.

Around at the same time, this friend of mine were asking us to join a marathon race of 10K in 2 hours limit. I hesitate that I can finish it in time, cause I never run that far. So she searched again and find a 5K marathon in 2 hours, with a cheaper fee. Well, I think I can do this, then I thought. I used to run about 3K in 30 minutes, so I definitely can finish this in time.

So me and three of my friends joined the marathon. It was my first time. So I was excited for the whole afternoon. The feeling of running with hundreds of people together is really intense. While running, I managed to saw and examined few families with either one or two children running together. I felt so happy just seeing them gather together running and caring about exercising and healthy.

I finished my race in 45 minutes with nonstop run/jog. A faster pace than my usual run. In the end, I learned that racing is not about comparing yourself to others nor how fast you can go. But it's about knowing yourself. Knowing your own pace and ability to finish it and beat your own personal goal, without being intimidated or tempted by others.

Who would have thought that this girl, who barely finished a 400m race in high school, now can run a 5K race, nonstop in 45 minutes?

I proved it that anything is possible, as long as you try. And yes, practice makes perfect.

Thursday, October 16, 2014

Quick reminder

Pernikahan itu sesuatu yang agung.
Pernikahan itu untuk jangka panjang.
Bila sudah menikah, jagalah baik-baik janji suci dan komitmen anda. 
Begitu juga dengan perbuatan dan pandangan anda. 
Suatu hal yang lucu dulu, bisa jadi suatu hal yang tidak pantas utk dilakukan ketika anda sudah menikah. 
Persoalan rumah tangga apapun yang ada, selesaikanlah, jangan mencari pelarian diluar. 
Think twice or even triple before you act.

Pardon me, yang tidak tau banyak tentang pernikahan. This is just a quick message for everyone - married and married to be -. I know it's basics and cliche, but I found that we all need to be reminded once in a while.

Thursday, October 2, 2014

Pacaran?

Islam tidak mengenal yang namanya pacaran dan sekarang sudah banyak pihak yang menyerukan untuk tidak berpacaran dengan berbagai alasan - termasuk alasan agama (dosa). Nevertheless, aku ngeliat banyak temen-temen yang Islam, yang taat solatnya dan mengerti banyak tentang Islam, tetap pacaran. So I come up with the conclusion that: pacaran itu tidak berkaitan langsung dengan pengetahuan seseorang dengan Islam. Jadi, sebenarnya ngelarang untuk berpacaran karena dosa itu kurang 'ngena'.

So here I am, trying to give my point of view.

FYI, aku pernah pacaran dan hubungan 'KJDA' (kita jalanin dulu aja) hahaha. Tapi mungkin aku sekarang ada di tahap jenuh pacaran dan cape disakitin terus. Dan aku jadi ngerasa, seruan Islam untuk tidak pacaran itu memang yang terbaik. Foolish me, yang ngga langsung percaya dan harus merasakan 'up and down'-nya pacaran.

Berikut ini alasan kenapa aku berubah pikiran:

1. I'm a whole-hearted type of person.
Aku ngga pernah setuju untuk in a relationship kalau aku ngga suka. Aku ngga pernah nerima hanya karena status, uang atau hal yang lainnya. Jadi, setiap kali pacaran aku selalu memberikan yang terbaik. I always give the best of me. Ini ngga salah kalau dengan orang yang tepat. But if it's a wrong man or a right man in a wrong time.. I can be easily hurt. And yes, I was hurt many times. For most of the time, I try to stay, untill I can barely hold on. Just because, aku ngga mau menyesal di kemudian hari. Jadi bisa disimpulkan bahwa di setiap pacaran, I was broken down untill my last breath.. and now, I don't want this to happen all over again.

2. I over-think and over-assume.
I'm a girl, obviously. Jadi semua perempuan pasti ngerti apa rasanya sms ngga dibales atau dia tiba-tiba ngilang tanpa kabar. Walaupun aku ngga pernah nuntut untuk dikabarin atau untuk sms setiap hari, tapi aku tetep selalu kepikiran pas sms aku lama ngga dibales, atau ketika seminggu intens komunikasi, tiba-tiba dia hilang gitu aja. All of these takes my time and effort. Capek juga sebenernya worrying and assuming too much, but we (girls), just can't help it. Kayaknya udah dari sana nya cewe pasti worring, assuming and thinking too much. Dan kalau udah begitu, aku ngga bisa konsentrasi belajar atau ngerjain apapun.

At this point, mungkin kamu bisa bilang: "pacaran itu ngga selamanya nyakitin kok, aku selama ini seneng-seneng aja pacaran".
Yap, ada kalanya kok aku juga ngerasain seneng and this leads to my third reasons.

3. Tetep ngga bisa konsentrasi, walaupun lagi seneng.
Seneng-seneng pas di awal pacaran itu ngebuat aku pengen terus berkomunikasi. Yaa pengen ketemu, sms, chat, or anything. Tetep aku ngga bisa full konsentrasi ke sekolah/kuliah. 

Jadi bisa dihitung dengan jari berapa hari aku ngerasa produktif, yaitu hari-hari normal diluar 3 kondisi diatas.

*Sedikit kronologi kejadian*
Awal-awal ngerasa seneng banget (kondisi ke-3), lalu pelan-pelan dia mulai melakukan aktifitas normalnya dan ngga intensif lagi komunikasi (kondisi ke-2). Setelah ini mungkin aku 'mengerti' dan mulai produktif melakukan kegiatanku. Tapi pengalamanku, mereka semakin lama semakin cuek/jauh, jadi aku mulai ngga fokus lagi by trying to hold on (kondisi pertama) and not long after that.. it's over.

Ngga ada yang salah dengan ke-3 sifat atau kondisiku itu, it was just in a wrong time and/or with a wrong man. I feel like I'm wasting my time and energy. Dan aku sadar bahwa jodoh itu sudah diatur oleh Allah. Jadi buat apa aku ngerasain roller-coaster dengan in and out of relationship, kalau Allah sudah menyiapkan semuanya untukku?

Dan apa sih keuntungannya pacaran?
 1. Keliatan keren/laku?
Ngga juga.. banyak orang yang keren/sukses sekolah/kuliah/kerja tanpa pacaran.

2. Diperhatiin?
Masih ada keluarga dan teman yang bisa ngasih perhatian yang lebih tulus dari pacar.

3. Temen curhat/temen jalan?
Well, ngga perlu pacaran untuk bisa jadi temen curhat atau temen jalan.

Hmm, what else?

Honestly, dulu aku pacaran karena temen-temen yg lain pada pacaran, jadi aku pengen ikut2an dan penasaran ngerasain gimana pacaran itu. Dan aku dulu ngerasa kalau aku bisa menghindar dari anything that leads to 'zina'. As I know better, I realize 'zina' can happen in a blink. Despite that, I also don't want to risk all my heart, time and energy only for my curiousity, the fame and peer-pressure.

Aku setuju bahwa kita perlu mengenal calon pendamping kita. Tapi masih banyak cara yang lain, ngga hanya pacaran, HTS, KJDA atau jenis-jenis hubungan lainnya. 

I'll go for: friend. Tetaplah berteman dengan orang yang berpotensi atau berkeinginan jadi pendamping kita. Ngga ada status and no heartbreaks, tapi kita tetep bisa diskusi dengan orang tersebut dan melihat kualitas dirinya.

It's been 2.5 years I've not been in any relationship. I value myself higher that I don't want to be a victim anymore. No heartbreaks and tears within these years and YES, I feel so much better.

Thank you for all those mens and relationships that makes me who I am right now. Mungkin ini jalanku untuk mengerti mana yang benar dan mana yang salah.

Semoga aku tetep berpegang teguh prinsipku ini :)

Thursday, September 25, 2014

Trust and Promise

Trust.

Don't you ever take someone's trust for granted. Once you lose it, you'll never get it back - even so, it will never be the same. Kepercayaan itu sesuatu yang istimewa, karena ngga semua orang aku kasih kepercayaan. So please keep it. Aku pasti memaklumi dan tetep positive thinking untuk kejadian yang pertama, kedua, maupun ketiga.. and I take all your excuses. Tapi tidak untuk yang kesekian kalinya

Another thing is, I am usually hurt when someone betrays my trust. Because I never see it coming.. never thought that they would do anything to hurt me, NEVER. Well yes, maybe I'm not careful enough in selecting whom I shoud trust.. Oops, my bad..

Promise.

Don't promise on something you can't keep. Hati-hati, lidah itu senjata yang paling tajam. Aku paling ngga suka kalau ada yang ngga menepati janji. At least, say something: re-schedule or re-organizing.. just don't leave me out of the blueAgain, aku pasti memaklumi untuk beberapa kali kejadian. Tapi tidak untuk yang kesekian kalinya.

Dia aku percaya, tapi ngga menepati janji dan hilang gitu aja? that is the worst person ever.

Dan biasanya, setelah sekian lama nunggu, positive thinking, dan masih percaya, tapi orang itu belum juga menepati janjinya.. I'm giving up, very dissapointed.. and of course, they'll lose my trust..

Cukup tau, learn my lesson and move on..

Saturday, July 12, 2014

Berkah Ramadhan :)

Selama ini aku hanya terfokus pada diriku saja. Aku, aku dan aku..

Aku selalu mikir betapa lambatnya aku mengerjakan riset, susahnya aku memikirkan metode-metode yang lain dan stressnya aku memikirkan cara untuk mengembangkan topik risetku ini. Dan ngga jarang aku merasa bahwa kapasitas otakku itu udah mentok dan sepertinya yang lain jauh lebih pinter dibandingkanku.

Yang paling bikin nge-down itu ngeliat 2 anak lab, master degree: yang satu dia ngambil salah satu topikku dan digabungkan dgn topik yang lain dan dia bisa punya 4 studies, nilai thesisnya paling bagus, masuk thesis competition dan pastinya Prof bangga sekali dengannya. Yang satunya lagi ngikutin salah satu metode-ku, dan lagi-lagi dia bisa punya 4 studies, nilainya bagus, anak kesayangan Prof, masuk thesis competition juga.

Dan aku? dari dulu 3 studies aja ngga selesai-selesai.. Walaupun emang beda tujuan dan jalan cerita kita, tapi ini terlihat amat sangat kontras.. Sedangkan waktu untuk submit paper udah di ambang pintu..  yup, the pressure is so-very huge..

Ketika underpressure, berkali-kali terlintas untuk mundur, take a break, or daydreaming hoping it's over soon. Setelah itu teringat alasanku untuk S3 dan perlahan-lahan bangkit. Orang tua-lah yang terus menyemangatiku untuk terus maju tanpa stress dan mengingatkanku untuk perbanyak Dzikir. Mungkin karena ngeliat aku begitu stressnya, mereka bilang "yaudah nis, ini iseng-iseng berhadiah, jangan dibawa stress yaa". And yeah, somehow it works :)

Beberapa minggu setelahnya, Ramadhan datang. Mulai shalat tharawih + witir dan lebih banyak baca Al-Quran + Dzikir.

Sesaat setelah itu ada beberapa yang aku rasakan dan dapatkan.. Mungkin ini berkah Ramadhan.. Alhamdulillah:
1. Hatiku lebih tenang dan bisa mengerjakan riset tanpa stress. Somehow I found the way to cope with it.

2. Nilai progress report selama ini ternyata dikasih nilai A sama Prof.. Selama 3 semester kemarin dapet A-, dan padahal sekarang ngga berharap banyak, mikirnya paling dapet nilai yang sama juga.. Tapi lalu aku mikir, mungkin A ini bisa jadi salah satu pemacu untuk menyelesaikan paperku yang artinya mungkin "you're good enough, you've been through long enough, finish it, don't give up"

3. Kuesioner boleh disebar, yang artinya setelah kuesioner ini tinggal merevisi penulisan dan it's ready! Aamiin..

4. This is the most shocking thing that happened.

Beberapa temanku mulai bilang kalau mereka ingin sekali nerusin kuliah sampai S3, tapi kondisi yang tidak memungkinkan: perlu cari uang, perlu menghidupkan keluarga, sudah ada anak, perlu nerusin bisnis keluarga, tidak dapat beasiswa, dll..

Aku tersentak. Aku ngga sadar bahwa banyak sekali orang diluar sana yang menginginkan ini, tapi belum bisa. Aku yang ... belum perlu cari uang, masih ada orang tua yang bekerja, belum berkeluarga, belum ada anak, tidak ada bisnis/kegiatan lain, dan dapat beasiswa full ... kenapa ngga bisa memanfaatkan kesempatan ini dengan sebaik-baiknya?
 
Ini membuat aku bersyukur tiada henti. Membuatku semangat mengerjakan risetku.
Aku mau memanfaatkan kesempatan langka ini - yang mungkin tidak akan datang kepadaku lagi.


There's no such thing as second chance, right?
So do it wholeheartedly and never take things for granted ;)



All and all, ternyata bukan aku, risetku atau Profku yang salah. Tapi ibadahku-lah yang kurang.

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

The truth

I'm a big fan of 'asking'. If you don't know, ask. If you're not sure, ask. If you're curious ask.
Things are so much easier when we all be honest and transparent to each other.

Not knowing makes us assuming and in some cases, even overthinking.
We can't assume on everything, unless we assume in every possible condition. And we shouldn't overthink, 'cause usually things are not as complicated as we thought.

On the other hand, most of the time we can't answer some questions. The answer would be 'I don't know why', 'I just did it', 'I just knew', 'I felt like it', 'I don't realize when', etc. People may or may not say the truth for some reasons.

If you asked and got an answer like that, try to look at their attitude and their eyes.

People can say anything, but eyes can't lie. 
It's a biology reaction that our pupils will get bigger/dilated when we are excited and smaller/constricted when we are upset. Evenmore, eyes can tell you more than anything. Two peoples can communicate only by looking at their eyes. There are also other reflects that we can observed from people, such as eyes & hands movement. 

People can fake to behave in certain ways, but their attitude remain unchanged. 
Behavior can only stay in a short term while attitude stay forever. Attitude is something that they have inside them. Some values and belief that they carry on. You will know why and how people make decision based on their attitude. Attitude can be discovered by analyzing their background information or work with them.

So, just observed! I'm sure the answer is there, but you're not aware of that.
If you care enough about the answer, take a second to look. People can't hide it all the time :)

Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Practice makes perfect

I believe everyone ever heard those sentence and maybe some of us think that it's just a word. Because sometimes, no matter how hard we've tried, we just can't do it. Moreover, when we see our friends are very good at it, we feel like we are sooo far behind them and we will need such a long time to become like them which will lead us to not wanting to try at all. Well, sometimes it happened to me. One of the examples are: jogging.

I can run pretty fast for 100 - 200m, which called a sprint. But I need to stop and walk if I have to run for more than 200m. And if someone ask me to jog, I can only jog for a few seconds. Weird huh? Don't know why. So I hate to jog, ever since. But recently, I notice that walking and jogging are the easiest exercise. Compared to swimming, you don't have to pack your clothes, shampoo and soap; and the time is quite flexible. You can jog for 15 minutes or even less, if you want to. So it's very easy, and you can do it any time.

So I tried to jog. It was around January and cold. Such a perfect timing to start jogging. And I can only jog for a few seconds, walk and jog again for about an hour. Then I keep on jogging at least once a week.

I realized that I improved! The improvement that I made makes me want to jog more often. I didn't keep a record for some time. But then I realized that I improved A LOT! In July, I was able to jog non-stop for 8 minutes!

Within 6 months, I can jog from a few seconds to 8 minutes! And until now, it keep on increasing, gradually. I feel really amused and proud of myself.
This is the proof that practice does makes perfect! Just wait patiently and see the improvement.

Good luck! :)


Sunday, January 27, 2013

Complicated

Aku terlalu sombong.
Terlalu yakin bahwa aku bisa melewatinya.
Bahwa ini sama dengan yang lainnya.
That I'll be fine and go on.

Tidak pernah sekalipun terbesit dalam pikiranku bahwa aku tidak bisa.
Karena kondisinya akan selalu mendukungku untuk melewatinya, pikirku.

Tapi aku lupa.
Lupa bahwa tidak ada yang tidak mungkin di dunia ini.
Everything's possible.

Ternyata kondisinya mengagetkan.
Kondisinya sangat tidak mendukung.
Kondisinya sangat complicated.

Karena aku tidak pernah memikirkan skenario ini, aku tidak siap.
No back up plans.
I screwed up.

Well, I realized, nothing is ever too late to try.

Aku mencoba untuk sadar.
Dan perlahan melepasnya.

One thing I believe in is that "The storm will eventually pass" and I'll be stronger than ever.

Friday, December 28, 2012

Life's tests

Do you know that life will give you a test that will gets harder and harder along the way?

When you had accomplished one test, you will be able to handle it in case it comes back. So the second time the test comes back, it is not a test for you anymore. Because it's easy for you to get through it. A test is when you find it hard to stand up and sometimes you may feel like giving up.

So, eventually you will get a harder test, which means, you're 'UP' one level. You'll realized that the test is so hard which somewhat impossible to be existed, but it did. And it's there for you to solve it. If you think that it's so hard, take a minute to look back in the past. Recall everything you've been through. Then you'll realized that you've been through a lot, which proves that you're strong enough to handle another test.

And yes, now I'm in the middle of a hard test. I have to step back from something and someone I like, when 'that things' are keep on coming at me. This will not be hard when I don't like it, so it's easy for me to step back. Or even when I like it, but it doesn't like me back, it's also easy to look forward and forget about it. 

But now, when I want to look away, it always coming back at me, makes me weak and holding me from stepping back. I know I need to be strong to fight with my own feelings, which is not easy at all. I am trying to always keep my faith, be patient and pray :). Hopefully I can hang on until it's done.

Saturday, December 1, 2012

'Things will be perfect at a perfect time'

Ever heard that notion? or not exactly like that but has the same meaning. I guess everybody ever heard it before. This words - or you can call it quotes - are used to motivate people when bad things are happening to them. It gives them the strength to let go and wish that there are something better for them in the near future.
I don't know if it works, but sometimes it does works for me. It makes me stop worrying and keep positive about what's happening. And actually here, I want to share that, this quote is really true.

It started when I was in my last year of primary school. I wish two things about how my junior high school life would be: part of an organization, and/or part of a dance club. Well, things turned out differently. There are no dance club and I didn't have a chance to be in an organization, because the teacher should recommend you to get in the organization. So then I let go of my dream and pass it for the senior high school. I wasn't mad, I enjoyed myself learning until I got top position in class.

In senior high school, I moved to Hong Kong. So instead of join any extracurricular activities, I learn my ass off to adapt and graduate in one and a half year. Again, I pass my dream to college.

I was putting a high expectation into college life. Since I'm back into my home town, so no adaption needed and college students are mature enough to make decision about organization. So I expected to have a high chance of making a dream come true. But life does not always giving what you want. The selection to be in an organization is that you need to join a-3-days-2 nights-outside-the-campus- camp. Since in Indonesia is not that safe, I'm a girl and there are no teacher supervising the camp, I'm not allowed to go, which means I'm not be able to join the organization. The same thing happens for the dance club. Life's bitter, I know. And I was thinking that life's not fair. I was kinda mad and blaming the situation, because I was thinking that college is my last chance to make it all happen.

Life is unpredictable, I would say. My plans for getting my master degree was changed, from getting it in Jakarta to Taipei. And surprisingly, in the place where I study now (NTUST) has lots and lots of Indonesian people, which makes it possible to form an Indonesian Student Association (ISA). There's no specific requirement to be a member, so I join it directly, without hesitation. Another blessing is that I was offered to dance Saman. And there are a lot of performing, which I - of course - really enjoyed it.

Now, in my second year, I'm a secretary in NTUST-ISA, a legislative board of ISA in Taiwan and a coordinator of Saman dance club. There goes my dream come true. I'll never imagine any other possible situation that is better that this. I really thank God for all these opportunities and I won't take any of these for granted.

See? It's really happening. As long as you keep trying and not wasting any chances you've got, things will be really perfect at a perfect time.

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

The four of us :)

Recently, I have 3 close friends to hang out with. We're about in the same age, but with different background and personality. But when we come together, everything fits. We have a lots of fun together. We can talk and laugh about anything. And with them, I forget about all my sadness. All I can do is just have fun!

There are two kinds of friends: the one who listens and gives you advice and the one who doesn't know about your problems, but they can cheer you up. Sometimes a best friend can do both, giving advice and cheering. But some of them can only do one. Like the four of us.

You can't say that they're my best friends, because we barely know each other, but we're close enough to spend the whole two days in a row together :)

And last time, I just realize that actually each one of us has a problem, especially about love, but no one bring it up. No one wants to talk about their problem and neither asking about it. Even when we want to talk about it we're simply saying it with no emotion attach. Then we forget about it and have fun! or sometimes, we're making fun of it, so we can laugh at our own sad stories. Together, we are really good at building a positive energy surround us. We turn everything into something we can laugh about.

These friends tell me that everyone has their own problem. But it doesn't mean you have to be sad all the time. Sometimes you have to put your problems behind and have fun. When you're happy, you can think and act positively, so then you can solve your problem. Like the advice from my previous post: throw away the things that can hurt you and be happy!

I would like to thank them for being around when my days are going down. They help me to go through the path that I used to go with him. So now I'm walking down that road with a smile on my face. Because, the memories about him is no longer exist, it replaced by them :)

Saturday, February 11, 2012

A Simple Advice

This is from my friend's blog. She wrote an advice from one of the greatest women in Indonesia, Fahmi Idris. The advice is simple, I bet everyone already know it. But it really helps when you're down. This advice successfully calms me down and so does my friend. Here's the advice. I'm sorry it is in Indonesian.

Kita wajib mendapatkan kebahagian karena kebahagiaan itu adalah milik kita. Jangan pernah mengantungkan kebahagiaan itu kepada orang lain. Buang jauh-jauh segala sesuatu yang akan membuat kita merasa sakit dan menderita, lupakan dan biarkan dia pergi. Serahkan semua urusan kepada-NYA, karena DIA-lah Tuhan yang maha segalanya.

I try to translate it in English, tho' I'm afraid the meaning change.

We deserve to be happy and we're the one who live our life, so don't put your happiness on someone else hands. Throw away the things that can hurt you, just forget it and let it go. Let God do the rest.

My advice, when you don't know which one is right or wrong, do what makes you happy. It's all that matter. As long as you're happy, you'll be safe. At least, you won't regret your choice that makes you happy.

Monday, January 30, 2012

Lesson Learned

Last week me and my family went Umrah. It is when Muslims visit Saudi Arabia to perform Tawaf and Sa'i. There are many history and meanings behind everything we did and I wrote down some of them that really catch my attention.

1. Tawaf.
It is where we should walk circling around Ka'bah 7 times while praying. This demonstrate that we should keep on praying to Allah while going through our daily lives. Never forget to pray, no matter what happened.

2. Sa'i
It is where we should walk back and forth from Al-Shafa hill to Al-Marwah hill. In history, Ibrahim's wife (Siti Hajar) and his son (Ismail) were in the desert. So Siti Hajar searched a water for her son. She left his son in the ground, in front of Ka'bah. First, she search it in Al-Shafa hill, when it is nothing there, she try to search in Al-Marwah hill. She went back and forth 7 times until finally Allah gave her a water. The water didn't come from either hills, it came from the place where Ismail laid down. That water is called Zamzam water, it is pure and we can drink it directly. What's more amazing is that water is still available until now, even though millions of people in Makkah drink it and some people bring it back to their own country.

What we learn from the history is that sometimes Allah doesn't give what we wanted and doesn't answer your pray straight away. But don't use it as an excuse to walk away and give up. Instead, you should keep on praying and have a faith, because Allah knows what's best for you and He will give it to you in the right time.

3. Qurban
Actually this is the activity where you do it in Hajj. But last time I went to that place and being told about the history. Allah asked Ibrahim to kill his only son and the one that have been waited for 10 years. But in the name of Allah, Ibrahim agreed. When the time to kill his son, Allah change his son into a goat. The purpose was Allah just wanted to test Ibrahim's loyalty. So this story proves how loyal Ibrahim is. He is ready to give everything in the name of Allah. Today we have to give a goat or a cow in every year, to remember that history and learn the lesson.

Everything that has been given to us will be taken back by Allah. Sooner or later we have to let go everything that He asks for. If it is the best for you, Allah will give it back to you. If He doesn't give it back, it means He will give a better one for you.


Knowing all these history and lessons calms me down. I have nothing to fear. Everything that happened is part of Allah's plan. I just have to ride it with my greatest effort and let Allah do the rest :)

Saturday, January 21, 2012

the story of a little fish

Once upon a time, there's a little fish swimming around freely in the sea. There's also a man with a net who just lost his fish. His friends are telling him to catch this fish. At first, the fish hesitate, whether to go into the net or not. But finally, the fish get in, and being caught by that net. After a while, for some reason, that man put the fish back into the sea. The fish feels so sad. But this little fish will stay close, just in case someday, that man will catch this fish again :)

Letting go, accepting bad things and waiting patiently are the hardest things to do. But once you can handle it, you own the world. If this life is a game, those things are the obstacles in the top level, the one we're supposed to kill the giant king. When it's done, you'll win with the great score. Same thing in real life. After successfully going through those problems, everything seems brighter and you'll be so much happier than ever.

It needs a process. No one said it would be easy, but they said it would be worth it :)
Have a faith, do it and good luck!

Saturday, December 17, 2011

Life

Life is like a roller coaster, or a spinning wheel. Sometimes you're up high in the sky, but in the next second you'll be down under, even lower than the ground. This change is changing quickly. I know, the purpose is to be thankful for what you got right now and never take things for granted. Because nothing is last forever. So you gotta maximize what you have til the limit.

The funny thing is when you're up there, all parts of your life also makes you happy at the same time and vice versa. When you did great in school, your family supports you and you have many friends around. Everything is in line. Everything makes you happy. Sometimes, this what makes us forget to thank God.

And when you're down, when something happens in your family, your performance at school is decreasing and other things. Everything happens at once, until you can barely handle it. There are uncountable tears that falls from your eyes. Many questions that pops into your head, especially: 'why this is happening to me, God?'.

But, do you ever ask the same question when you're happy? NO. I bet you never ask God why something's good is happening to you. It's not fair, right? You only ask and pray more when you're in a bad condition.
I just want to remind everyone, especially me: to always be thankful for what you've got now, good or bad. Because it won't last long and there will be a beautiful plans ahead.

When something bad happens, you gotta stand up straight and look forward. Don't let the situation drags you down. Remember:

1. Always believe that you can handle it, because God will never give a challenge to you, if He knows you can't handle it.

2. If you think the challenge is too hard, always think that it means your level is high now, please..give yourself a credit. And when you finally can get through all this, your level will even higher.

3. It will be over soon. So held your head up!

4. Never ask why! Because someday you'll be thankful of what have had happens.

5. Don't think too much. Follow your heart, instead.

6. Pray and be thankful. Even you had a bad day, at least you should be thankful that you're still alive today :)


"Never expect, never assume, never ask and never demand. Because if it's meant to be, it will be"
"Que sera sera. Whatever will be, will be. The future's not ours to see"

Saturday, November 19, 2011

'nightmare'

Last night, the whole class felt like they were being 'slapped', somehow by our Professor of Turbulence Management. There are 2 Professor that teaches us for that course and last night, it was the-not-so-favorite one turn to teach. He was supposed to evaluate our mid-term assignment briefly and continue to teach the next lesson. But instead, he took the whole 3 hours class only to evaluate our assignment! What he did was ask the best 3 groups and 1 additional group to present their mid-term assignment and then he tell us how is the best report looks like and how does it correlate to a suit? at this point, I was like.. 'What? what does it had to do with Turbulence?' Well then, I just keep it for myself and trying to survive in that class with no interest at all. Until the end of the class, he still says something about our assignment. So then some of us discussed about what is actually his purpose. His assistant told us that some of our assignment is not focus enough. We just explain and answer it briefly, not to the point.

Well, this is the case. The instruction for our assignment is not clear enough. There's no border line for the assignment. When someone asked him, 'what should we write? should we write about this or this?' then he answered, 'you can write anything you like, anything. Use your creativity'. So then we write according to our group interpretation of the question. We analyze all different aspects. Not so detailed, but clear enough that we put all the possible aspects. Frankly, what he wanted is we have to specify and analyze about just one aspects. But he never told us.

I know, we are an MBA student, so he expect us to think in a business oriented, which is focus to analyze just one aspects. But most of us is in their first year, even first semester. Our mindset hasn't build yet. We still need a direction. It's okay if he doesn't want to teach in detail, but at least, he gives it for assignment, so that he can get what he wants.

I was shocked that it bothers me a lot! I didn't experience this kind of things in other classes. It's because they do give a clear instruction of what they want. Well, yes, people are different. But for this one, this is the basic rule in our live. 'If you want something, say it clear', right? Hello, we are not a mind-reader. Do not expect us to know what you want. We all have a different perception, moreover we have a different background and nationality, which makes our perception diverse even larger.

A good lesson in this case are: (1) "Say clearly what you want. Repeat if necessary" (2) "Ask everything that you don't know, in detail".
I hope that there will be no more miscommunication and I hope I can still fix my mistake and get a good grade. Amin :)

Thursday, November 25, 2010

tear drops..

i cried a lot these days! even too much!
there are so many sad things happened.
1. on monday, my very rare questionare which i only got 3 - are missing! dont kno where it went. i've been circling around searching it, even until 3 times..but nothing.

2. on wednesday, my lovely iPod is gone! eventho its not that expansive, but i had it for like 4 years and its been like a part of me. And i just felt so stupid and dissapointed to myself because i cant protect my valuable things.
at the same time, my mom's granma die :(. which caused my granma go to her hometown. and who's left? only me and my lil brother. i dont have anyone to turn to. i got so lovely friends, but for this kinda thing, my parents always have their best way to calm me down. and not even one of them are here.

3. on thursday, my data for thesis are not valid and reliable! this is the second time i tried it. The first one is not valid because the range of the scale, i guess. So i changed it into a 5 likert scale, and guess what? same result! i just cant hold my tears this time. im just so scared that i couldnt find a way out, and become a failure. i do not want it to happen, but i really dont have any clue to solve it. i just hope something or someone that really good could help me to get through all this.

these are all happened in one week. these are too much for me. i could barely handle it. i feel like giving up, somehow..but the good thing is, the other part of me wouldnt let it happen. im clueless. im lost. dont kno where to go. i felt lonely.

oh God, my dear lovely and helpful God, please please help me to find a way out, to get through all this, to finish my thesis and to make my parents proud. Amiin :)