Showing posts with label Inspiration. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Inspiration. Show all posts

Wednesday, March 14, 2018

Satu Kata untuk Taiwan

Semua hal itu ada ‘image’-nya. Mulai dari warna, produk, orang, hingga negara, pasti ada gambaran atau pesan yang ingin disampaikan. Image Taiwan dimata saya dalam satu kata itu adalah dewasa. Taiwan itu tenang, fokus dan rendah hati. Dewasa sekali, bukan?

Yang saya perhatikan selama kuliah di Taiwan ini adalah hampir semua dosen disini jarang berpakaian formal ketika lab meeting, mengajar, maupun menguji sidang. Mereka nyaman dengan pakaian kasual mereka. Terlihat sekali mereka berpegang teguh prinsip ‘don’t judge the book by its cover’. Mereka dengan tenang dan yakin bahwa penampilan bukanlah ukuran yang utama dalam menilai orang lain. Mereka percaya kemampuan mereka tetap mampu terpancar keluar dibalik penampilan mereka yang santai. Ini membuat saya nyaman sekali menjadi minioritas dengan memakai hijab. Bahkan keputusan untuk memakai hijab ini ada ketika saya di Taiwan. Saya yakin bahwa mereka tidak akan menyimpulkan sesuatu tentang saya hanya karena penampilan saya.

Indonesia dan Taiwan memang sama-sama memiliki budaya interdependen yang lebih dominan, dibandingkan dengan budaya barat yang dominan dengan budaya independennya. Tapi, Taiwan ini memiliki nilai budaya independen yang lebih tinggi dari Indonesia. Saya melihat dan merasakan bahwa orang Taiwan lebih fokus terhadap diri mereka sendiri. Mereka tidak ingin tau semua urusan pribadi orang lain. Hanya beberapa dosen dan temen lab saya yang bertanya tentang urusan pribadi saya. Semakin lama saya di Taiwan, saya merasa semakin sama pola pikir saya dengan mereka. Saya menjadi fokus dengan diri saya sendiri dan tidak terlalu memikirkan orang lain. Ini yang menguatkan saya selama saya menjalani kuliah ini. Saya fokus menyelesaikan kuliah saya, walaupun teman-teman yang lain tidak melakukan hal yang sama dengan saya. Saya percaya tiap orang punya jalannya masing-masing.

Secara negara, Taiwan ini dibatasi ruang geraknya dengan ‘One China Policy’. Tapi ini tidak membuat Taiwan berhenti bersinar. Taiwan menjadi salah satu negara yang unggul dalam bidang teknologi dan ramah lingkungan. Namun, Taiwan sadar bahwa mereka akan selalu menjadi nomer 2. Secara natural, kesadaran ini membuat mereka menjadi rendah hati dan tidak sombong.  Saya kagum dengan orang-orang Taiwan yang dengan tulus dan sungguh-sungguh menolong orang asing. Saya dengan bahasa Mandarin yang terbatas, mereka dengan bahasa Inggris yang terbata-bata dan kita yang saling mengandalkan bahasa tubuh dan google translate, tidak menghentikan mereka untuk berbuat baik terhadap saya dan orang asing lainnya. Ini hal yang jarang ditemui di negara maju lainnya dan inilah yang membuat Taiwan special dimata orang asing. Ini membuat saya berfikir bahwa kita perlu dengan pintar memutar kekurangan kita menjadi kelebihan. Kita semua lahir dengan kekurangan dan sering kali kekurangan tersebut tidak bisa diperbaiki. Tapi, akan ada kelebihan dibalik kekurangan tersebut, seperti kata pepatah ‘every coin has its two sides’. Kita harus terus berkembang dengan menggunakan kelebihan yang kita punya.

Terima kasih Taiwan yang telah membantu saya untuk berpenampilan, bersikap, dan berfikir lebih dewasa.

Friday, April 3, 2015

My first race!

About 19 months ago I wrote about jogging and how much I had improved ("practice makes perfect"). I keep on jogging ever since and it improves bit by bit until I have this thought of entering a marathon race.

Around at the same time, this friend of mine were asking us to join a marathon race of 10K in 2 hours limit. I hesitate that I can finish it in time, cause I never run that far. So she searched again and find a 5K marathon in 2 hours, with a cheaper fee. Well, I think I can do this, then I thought. I used to run about 3K in 30 minutes, so I definitely can finish this in time.

So me and three of my friends joined the marathon. It was my first time. So I was excited for the whole afternoon. The feeling of running with hundreds of people together is really intense. While running, I managed to saw and examined few families with either one or two children running together. I felt so happy just seeing them gather together running and caring about exercising and healthy.

I finished my race in 45 minutes with nonstop run/jog. A faster pace than my usual run. In the end, I learned that racing is not about comparing yourself to others nor how fast you can go. But it's about knowing yourself. Knowing your own pace and ability to finish it and beat your own personal goal, without being intimidated or tempted by others.

Who would have thought that this girl, who barely finished a 400m race in high school, now can run a 5K race, nonstop in 45 minutes?

I proved it that anything is possible, as long as you try. And yes, practice makes perfect.

Thursday, November 6, 2014

Beauty with[out] make up :)



This is a video with a beautiful message by Colbie Caillat, titled Try.

When the first time this video was launch, many people commented on it, including pros and cons. I was going to write about it, but I couldn't find a time to write. So here I am now, commenting about the video, about make up, mostly.

This video is saying that don't put on a mask so that everybody likes you. Don't put your make up on if you don't want to. Don't excersice just to get a compliment from others. Make up and excercise is not wrong, the purpose is.

And yes, every woman should know that they are beautiful. So I don't think put some make up every day, every moment is neccessary. 

For me, make up is only for work - when it's required to. If you work behind the desk and you don't want to wear make up, you can just look natural but make sure you have enough sleep so you'll look fresh. I'm sure they don't mind. Because the point of using make up is just to look neat and professional. If you look fresh and behave, I'm sure you'll look professional and neat already. *Hey, man don't wear make up to work, why should we (woman)?

If you want to wear make up, before wearing it, make sure you like yourself first. So wearing make up is not for you to hide your fear, but to boost up your confidence. It maybe sounds the same thing, but the focus are different. If you wear make up when you feel you can't blend in and not comfortable with yourself, then don't. Wear it when you are happy and comfortable, so make up can only make you happier.

When you like yourself, then you don't want to wear make up. You'll think that 'I like the way I look now, why should I put some make up?'. Only, some other time - perhaps special occasion - when you feel like you want to look differently - in a good way. I'll say that make up goes in line with your wardrobe. If you look everyday casual, then no need make up. But if there's special occasion, you'll wear something special obviously, so you may wear some make up.

But if you wear make up every time - outside work, ask yourself why you wear make up. Because for me, wearing make up is a sign of insecurities if you use it almost every time.

This post is for those girls that wears make up everyday. A childhood friend of mine is one of them. I feel like I want to tell her that "you don't need those make up to look pretty, you ARE beautiful and I even like they way you look naturally".

Monday, November 3, 2014

Kehilangan..

I found this on Facebook. This is exactly what I was thinking when I was in a process of wearing hijab: http://anisalarasati.blogspot.tw/2013/09/my-new-look.html





Thursday, October 16, 2014

Quick reminder

Pernikahan itu sesuatu yang agung.
Pernikahan itu untuk jangka panjang.
Bila sudah menikah, jagalah baik-baik janji suci dan komitmen anda. 
Begitu juga dengan perbuatan dan pandangan anda. 
Suatu hal yang lucu dulu, bisa jadi suatu hal yang tidak pantas utk dilakukan ketika anda sudah menikah. 
Persoalan rumah tangga apapun yang ada, selesaikanlah, jangan mencari pelarian diluar. 
Think twice or even triple before you act.

Pardon me, yang tidak tau banyak tentang pernikahan. This is just a quick message for everyone - married and married to be -. I know it's basics and cliche, but I found that we all need to be reminded once in a while.

Saturday, October 11, 2014

Let it go ~

I'm never going back, the past is in the past
Let it go ~
Let it go ~
[Let it go - Frozen]


Yes, as the song told us: let it go, people!

We all have our own past, which can be pretty bad and it might be because of someone else's fault. It's our right to be mad and blame ourselves or them who hurt us. But it won't take us anywhere. The pain, anger and maybe shame or regret will always haunt us if we still look back at the past. The past is happened for us to take the lesson. So when we know all about the past that happened to us (why, how and who's fault), we have to accept, forgive, learn and move on.

If you still can't forgive the person that hurt you, then everytime you have a problem, you will always blame them. In that case, you will not be able to find a good solution for your current problem and you will be surrounded by all the negative feelings that will drag you down. And nothing good can come out from negative feelings.

Blaming the past that will not talk back to you, nor giving any solution, is just pathetic. It's like blaming a dead person. Yes, in case you haven't notice, the past is dead.

I know letting go is not easy, but just take a baby step forward at each time. It needs process, but the important thing is you move on, no matter how far it is.

Good Luck! :)

Thursday, October 2, 2014

Pacaran?

Islam tidak mengenal yang namanya pacaran dan sekarang sudah banyak pihak yang menyerukan untuk tidak berpacaran dengan berbagai alasan - termasuk alasan agama (dosa). Nevertheless, aku ngeliat banyak temen-temen yang Islam, yang taat solatnya dan mengerti banyak tentang Islam, tetap pacaran. So I come up with the conclusion that: pacaran itu tidak berkaitan langsung dengan pengetahuan seseorang dengan Islam. Jadi, sebenarnya ngelarang untuk berpacaran karena dosa itu kurang 'ngena'.

So here I am, trying to give my point of view.

FYI, aku pernah pacaran dan hubungan 'KJDA' (kita jalanin dulu aja) hahaha. Tapi mungkin aku sekarang ada di tahap jenuh pacaran dan cape disakitin terus. Dan aku jadi ngerasa, seruan Islam untuk tidak pacaran itu memang yang terbaik. Foolish me, yang ngga langsung percaya dan harus merasakan 'up and down'-nya pacaran.

Berikut ini alasan kenapa aku berubah pikiran:

1. I'm a whole-hearted type of person.
Aku ngga pernah setuju untuk in a relationship kalau aku ngga suka. Aku ngga pernah nerima hanya karena status, uang atau hal yang lainnya. Jadi, setiap kali pacaran aku selalu memberikan yang terbaik. I always give the best of me. Ini ngga salah kalau dengan orang yang tepat. But if it's a wrong man or a right man in a wrong time.. I can be easily hurt. And yes, I was hurt many times. For most of the time, I try to stay, untill I can barely hold on. Just because, aku ngga mau menyesal di kemudian hari. Jadi bisa disimpulkan bahwa di setiap pacaran, I was broken down untill my last breath.. and now, I don't want this to happen all over again.

2. I over-think and over-assume.
I'm a girl, obviously. Jadi semua perempuan pasti ngerti apa rasanya sms ngga dibales atau dia tiba-tiba ngilang tanpa kabar. Walaupun aku ngga pernah nuntut untuk dikabarin atau untuk sms setiap hari, tapi aku tetep selalu kepikiran pas sms aku lama ngga dibales, atau ketika seminggu intens komunikasi, tiba-tiba dia hilang gitu aja. All of these takes my time and effort. Capek juga sebenernya worrying and assuming too much, but we (girls), just can't help it. Kayaknya udah dari sana nya cewe pasti worring, assuming and thinking too much. Dan kalau udah begitu, aku ngga bisa konsentrasi belajar atau ngerjain apapun.

At this point, mungkin kamu bisa bilang: "pacaran itu ngga selamanya nyakitin kok, aku selama ini seneng-seneng aja pacaran".
Yap, ada kalanya kok aku juga ngerasain seneng and this leads to my third reasons.

3. Tetep ngga bisa konsentrasi, walaupun lagi seneng.
Seneng-seneng pas di awal pacaran itu ngebuat aku pengen terus berkomunikasi. Yaa pengen ketemu, sms, chat, or anything. Tetep aku ngga bisa full konsentrasi ke sekolah/kuliah. 

Jadi bisa dihitung dengan jari berapa hari aku ngerasa produktif, yaitu hari-hari normal diluar 3 kondisi diatas.

*Sedikit kronologi kejadian*
Awal-awal ngerasa seneng banget (kondisi ke-3), lalu pelan-pelan dia mulai melakukan aktifitas normalnya dan ngga intensif lagi komunikasi (kondisi ke-2). Setelah ini mungkin aku 'mengerti' dan mulai produktif melakukan kegiatanku. Tapi pengalamanku, mereka semakin lama semakin cuek/jauh, jadi aku mulai ngga fokus lagi by trying to hold on (kondisi pertama) and not long after that.. it's over.

Ngga ada yang salah dengan ke-3 sifat atau kondisiku itu, it was just in a wrong time and/or with a wrong man. I feel like I'm wasting my time and energy. Dan aku sadar bahwa jodoh itu sudah diatur oleh Allah. Jadi buat apa aku ngerasain roller-coaster dengan in and out of relationship, kalau Allah sudah menyiapkan semuanya untukku?

Dan apa sih keuntungannya pacaran?
 1. Keliatan keren/laku?
Ngga juga.. banyak orang yang keren/sukses sekolah/kuliah/kerja tanpa pacaran.

2. Diperhatiin?
Masih ada keluarga dan teman yang bisa ngasih perhatian yang lebih tulus dari pacar.

3. Temen curhat/temen jalan?
Well, ngga perlu pacaran untuk bisa jadi temen curhat atau temen jalan.

Hmm, what else?

Honestly, dulu aku pacaran karena temen-temen yg lain pada pacaran, jadi aku pengen ikut2an dan penasaran ngerasain gimana pacaran itu. Dan aku dulu ngerasa kalau aku bisa menghindar dari anything that leads to 'zina'. As I know better, I realize 'zina' can happen in a blink. Despite that, I also don't want to risk all my heart, time and energy only for my curiousity, the fame and peer-pressure.

Aku setuju bahwa kita perlu mengenal calon pendamping kita. Tapi masih banyak cara yang lain, ngga hanya pacaran, HTS, KJDA atau jenis-jenis hubungan lainnya. 

I'll go for: friend. Tetaplah berteman dengan orang yang berpotensi atau berkeinginan jadi pendamping kita. Ngga ada status and no heartbreaks, tapi kita tetep bisa diskusi dengan orang tersebut dan melihat kualitas dirinya.

It's been 2.5 years I've not been in any relationship. I value myself higher that I don't want to be a victim anymore. No heartbreaks and tears within these years and YES, I feel so much better.

Thank you for all those mens and relationships that makes me who I am right now. Mungkin ini jalanku untuk mengerti mana yang benar dan mana yang salah.

Semoga aku tetep berpegang teguh prinsipku ini :)

Saturday, July 12, 2014

Berkah Ramadhan :)

Selama ini aku hanya terfokus pada diriku saja. Aku, aku dan aku..

Aku selalu mikir betapa lambatnya aku mengerjakan riset, susahnya aku memikirkan metode-metode yang lain dan stressnya aku memikirkan cara untuk mengembangkan topik risetku ini. Dan ngga jarang aku merasa bahwa kapasitas otakku itu udah mentok dan sepertinya yang lain jauh lebih pinter dibandingkanku.

Yang paling bikin nge-down itu ngeliat 2 anak lab, master degree: yang satu dia ngambil salah satu topikku dan digabungkan dgn topik yang lain dan dia bisa punya 4 studies, nilai thesisnya paling bagus, masuk thesis competition dan pastinya Prof bangga sekali dengannya. Yang satunya lagi ngikutin salah satu metode-ku, dan lagi-lagi dia bisa punya 4 studies, nilainya bagus, anak kesayangan Prof, masuk thesis competition juga.

Dan aku? dari dulu 3 studies aja ngga selesai-selesai.. Walaupun emang beda tujuan dan jalan cerita kita, tapi ini terlihat amat sangat kontras.. Sedangkan waktu untuk submit paper udah di ambang pintu..  yup, the pressure is so-very huge..

Ketika underpressure, berkali-kali terlintas untuk mundur, take a break, or daydreaming hoping it's over soon. Setelah itu teringat alasanku untuk S3 dan perlahan-lahan bangkit. Orang tua-lah yang terus menyemangatiku untuk terus maju tanpa stress dan mengingatkanku untuk perbanyak Dzikir. Mungkin karena ngeliat aku begitu stressnya, mereka bilang "yaudah nis, ini iseng-iseng berhadiah, jangan dibawa stress yaa". And yeah, somehow it works :)

Beberapa minggu setelahnya, Ramadhan datang. Mulai shalat tharawih + witir dan lebih banyak baca Al-Quran + Dzikir.

Sesaat setelah itu ada beberapa yang aku rasakan dan dapatkan.. Mungkin ini berkah Ramadhan.. Alhamdulillah:
1. Hatiku lebih tenang dan bisa mengerjakan riset tanpa stress. Somehow I found the way to cope with it.

2. Nilai progress report selama ini ternyata dikasih nilai A sama Prof.. Selama 3 semester kemarin dapet A-, dan padahal sekarang ngga berharap banyak, mikirnya paling dapet nilai yang sama juga.. Tapi lalu aku mikir, mungkin A ini bisa jadi salah satu pemacu untuk menyelesaikan paperku yang artinya mungkin "you're good enough, you've been through long enough, finish it, don't give up"

3. Kuesioner boleh disebar, yang artinya setelah kuesioner ini tinggal merevisi penulisan dan it's ready! Aamiin..

4. This is the most shocking thing that happened.

Beberapa temanku mulai bilang kalau mereka ingin sekali nerusin kuliah sampai S3, tapi kondisi yang tidak memungkinkan: perlu cari uang, perlu menghidupkan keluarga, sudah ada anak, perlu nerusin bisnis keluarga, tidak dapat beasiswa, dll..

Aku tersentak. Aku ngga sadar bahwa banyak sekali orang diluar sana yang menginginkan ini, tapi belum bisa. Aku yang ... belum perlu cari uang, masih ada orang tua yang bekerja, belum berkeluarga, belum ada anak, tidak ada bisnis/kegiatan lain, dan dapat beasiswa full ... kenapa ngga bisa memanfaatkan kesempatan ini dengan sebaik-baiknya?
 
Ini membuat aku bersyukur tiada henti. Membuatku semangat mengerjakan risetku.
Aku mau memanfaatkan kesempatan langka ini - yang mungkin tidak akan datang kepadaku lagi.


There's no such thing as second chance, right?
So do it wholeheartedly and never take things for granted ;)



All and all, ternyata bukan aku, risetku atau Profku yang salah. Tapi ibadahku-lah yang kurang.

Friday, April 4, 2014

Passion

I consider myself living my life with passion, rather than dreams.

I may not have a huge dream or a detailed ones, but every seconds of my life is full of passion. I have quite a lot of passions: writing, reading, jogging, cycling, swimming, knitting, handcrafts, analyzing, leading, travelling, adventure, violin, piano, language, french, mandarin, new things, hiking, sleeping. My life is guided by my passions. Everything I do is always related to these passions, because if you do things with passion, you can always will be able to keep on going and give 100%.

When people ask me: 'What do you want to do in the future?' I may answer it with a standard answer that even I don't know if I able to pursue it. I'm more kind of thinking in step by step. Well, I know what step I will take after, but it's not detailed yet. I focused on the current step, instead. Focus, find my passions in it, have fun and no regrets. Alhamdulillah, so far, I never do things that is not my passions and that I regreted.

I'm not saying living your live in dream is wrong. It's just people have different ways in living their lives and this is my way :)

Better yet, you need to have dreams, and living your life with passions to get your dreams :)

Wednesday, January 8, 2014

The truth

I'm a big fan of 'asking'. If you don't know, ask. If you're not sure, ask. If you're curious ask.
Things are so much easier when we all be honest and transparent to each other.

Not knowing makes us assuming and in some cases, even overthinking.
We can't assume on everything, unless we assume in every possible condition. And we shouldn't overthink, 'cause usually things are not as complicated as we thought.

On the other hand, most of the time we can't answer some questions. The answer would be 'I don't know why', 'I just did it', 'I just knew', 'I felt like it', 'I don't realize when', etc. People may or may not say the truth for some reasons.

If you asked and got an answer like that, try to look at their attitude and their eyes.

People can say anything, but eyes can't lie. 
It's a biology reaction that our pupils will get bigger/dilated when we are excited and smaller/constricted when we are upset. Evenmore, eyes can tell you more than anything. Two peoples can communicate only by looking at their eyes. There are also other reflects that we can observed from people, such as eyes & hands movement. 

People can fake to behave in certain ways, but their attitude remain unchanged. 
Behavior can only stay in a short term while attitude stay forever. Attitude is something that they have inside them. Some values and belief that they carry on. You will know why and how people make decision based on their attitude. Attitude can be discovered by analyzing their background information or work with them.

So, just observed! I'm sure the answer is there, but you're not aware of that.
If you care enough about the answer, take a second to look. People can't hide it all the time :)

Friday, December 20, 2013

Date A Diplomat's Daughter

Date a diplomat's daughter. She values all the available time at her best because she knows there will be a time that she'll leave to another place. She has various idea to plan every moment and yet still be flexible as the leaving time is unpredictable and keep changing in the very last minute. Being together is all she's ever wanted. Simple. 

Date a diplomat's daughter. Since she moves to a new place at least every 3 years, it makes her easy to be friend with. You always have enough time to tell her anything and she'll always ready to listen. Simply because she knows when to speak and to listen as her parents taught her how to behave in diplomatic way. She's also always look at different point of view of something, since different countries have different ways of saying things. So, to fight is not her thing. She may want to argue or debate just to find out why and how out of her curiosity. 

Date a diplomat's daughter. You won't find any hard time to adjust. Give her anything, take her anywhere and she will accept and appreciate everything without complaining as she's been through every possible situation. Better yet, she's very into an adventure, surprise her. You can also talk almost everything with her. Being in foreign countries broadens her knowledge world-widely - economy, politic, law, culture, language - you name it.

Date a diplomat's daughter. She knows how to handle herself and people around her. Trying to live and survive in a new country, makes her able to take care of everything - household problems included. Although she's been through a lot, she still manages to look strong and happy. Because of this, she grows up quickly, becomes more mature and able to adapt fast.

Date a diplomat's daughter. She has strong moral values to hold on into. As environment and friends are changing, she needs a solid ground to keep her in the right path. You can always rely on her and never get disappointed.

Date a diplomat's daughter. It may be hard to keep relationship in a distance, but once she chooses you, she believes that it will works. Since she moves frequently, she only get a chance to trust a few people. If you're the one that she trusts, keep it; or else you'll never get it back.

Note: It only applies when the daughter moves together with her parents after - at least - 2 different foreign countries.

Saturday, October 19, 2013

New Environment

There are times that I'm bored reading tons of papers in my room, or even in my home. Moreover, I'm kinda addicted to internet. Although there's nothing important to browse, I still hang around wasting my time. And in the end of the day, I feel regret cause I couldn't finish my work.


Then I get out from my home, my comfort zone and from unlimited-fast speed internet, to find a place to read papers and write my work. I found Starbucks nearby with small bathroom inside. Ordered a cup of green tea latte with cinnamon, sat near the corner and start reading. I stayed there for about 3 hours, had my lunch, read paper and finish my work. Yeay! I feel proud of myself. I feel so delighted. And it feels really nice to get my work done. How could I procrastinate my work for all this time? Since then, I'm able to encourage myself more to work :)


In the next week, I went into another Starbucks store, it's one and a half block from the first one and it's a part of a mall. It was a fine chill afternoon, so I decided to try to work outdoor! The weather was really nice. But after two hours, I felt my hands were freezing, needed to pee -the toilet was kinda far and I didn't feel like leaving my stuffs outdoor- and there were a lot of cigarette smoke - oh tell me about it. So I went inside the mall and continue it in the foodcourt, instead.

These two times of working outside were really fun! Refreshed my mind and I can finish my work without an interruption from the internet! LOL

So if you find it hard to concentrate, maybe you can try to find a new place to finish your work.

Good luck! :)

Tuesday, October 15, 2013

'Udah ada tanggalnya'

Ketika ngomongin pernikahan, selalu aku jawab: "belum ada calonnya" atau "masih belum nemu calonnya". Lalu saat itu dijawab oleh seorang istri ustadz:

"Tenang aja, udah ada tanggal yang ditetapkan oleh Allah kok untuk mba Nisa.. 'Mba Nisa dengan siapa, pada tanggal sekian..' gitu"

Simple. Tapi ngena banget. Mengingatkanku kembali bahwa jodoh itu sudah ada yang atur. I don't need to worry anymore and let Allah handle it

To all jomblo (including me :p):
Jadi, udah ngga perlu lagi galau kalo gebetan menjauh, bingung kalo ngga ada yang ngedeketin atau sedih pas gebetan punya pacar baru. Semua udah diatur kok, ngapain dipikirin? mending mikirin sekolahan, kuliah, kerja, hobi baru, keterampilan baru, tambahin wawasan, tambahin teman, dll.

Gunakan waktu berhargamu dengan kegiatan positif! :)

Wednesday, September 18, 2013

FAITH :)


I got those words from "International Muslim Exhibition Culture" in my campus on November 2012. Since then, these words keep spinning in my head. It kept telling me that I need to have a bigger faith, especially when it comes to hijab. It really pushes me through my hard times. 

And now I can smile while reading it because I know I just beat my fears down and wear my hijab on :)
I'm so glad I got this message. It really helped me through.

So guys, whatever things you're dealing with, "Let your faith be bigger than your fears".

Sunday, September 1, 2013

My new look

I proudly announce that, I'm wearing hijab. You know, a scarf that covers your head. If you ask why and how, well, it's such a long journey. But let me break it down into 5 things or steps that went through my mind before I decided to wear hijab. Hopefully, this post inspires other Muslim women to cover their heads.

1. I'm not ready.
Well, that is my reason every time people ask me why I don't wear hijab. It was until a women came on to me -out of no where- and asked me why, intensively. After I answered it with my classic answer, she said, "if you're about to die, you can't said 'wait, don't take me yet, I'm not ready, I haven't wear hijab', can you? and since wearing hijab is an obligation, you need to wear it, no matter what". Her words struck me pretty bad. My tears started to falls, don't know why. Then, I kept on thinking about it and started to plan. I also thought that if I keep on waiting, until when will I be ready? Will I ever know that I'm ready? I remember it correctly, that woman came on to me on October 2010. And a little while after that, I started to plan forwards.

2. Look Different.
This is the first thing that comes to my mind when I started to think about hijab. How will I look afterwards? How different will I look? How will others react? Will I comfortable with myself? Will I able to wear cute/fashionable clothes anymore? - It was me, long before that women came on to me. After she came, I thought that I can try different ways to wear hijab so that I feel comfortable in it and I still can wear cute/fashionable clothes as long as it is long sleeves and big enough for me to wear. So this problem is solved. Checked! It was around May 2011.

3. Bad Thought.
When other people from other country saw a women with hijab, they thought she is a terrorist. Or in some country, they underestimate Muslim woman. Since I've been to that country and heard someone calling Muslims are terrorist, I'm afraid if I'm being noticeable by them, I don't have any argument to fight back. Back then I was just a kid. I know little about my religion. Since then, I try to seek more knowledge, throw some challenging questions to other Muslims and listen to their answers, just in case later on, it will be my time to answer it. I observe people and realize that there are a few Muslims out there that know little about Islam, even less than me. But they are proud and say it out loud that they are Muslims. Then, I thought that there will never enough knowledge for someone to understand, but you need faith to do what you need to do. As long as you believe in it, Insha Allah, others will understand. I have my faith around Feb 2012.

4. Lost my significant other and 5. Everything else
Sounds silly, I know. But look around, people do care about what's their significant other are thinking or saying. And after a long steps that I went through and faith that I finally have, I still think about what if after I change, I lost him. Because maybe he doesn't like the changes that I've made. After several thoughts, I finally said to myself "I rather lost him, than lost a GOD". I know that this hijab is really important for me, it's an obligation for every Muslim woman and if I don't wear it, Allah may not be with me anymore. And I know that there will be someone out there that accept me with hijab. Almost at the same time, I also thought that I might lose what I have right now. Anything. Such as freedom, or any other opportunities. But then, as I know better, woman will feel free when they wear hijab, there will be no guy looking at them with 'that' look. And, if you can't get a good opportunity by wearing hijab, then it's not good enough. Nothing comes good from someone who can't respect our religion. And remember that Allah will give you even better opportunity if you still wear your hijab. I brace myself to move forward around March 2013.

Then, I just wait and getting ready for it.
Why not wearing it directly? Well, I'm not a big fan of 'suddenly', especially, not for this big changing in my life and myself. Even more, from March-July, it was oh-super-hectic-days for me, busy preparing my thesis and all of the documents for PhD admission. I don't think I have a little room to think about this changing. Because you know, you can't just suddenly wear hijab as you like it - at least, not for me. I need to think how will I wear it and what kinds of materials that I'm comfortable with. I need to prepare every tiny details, so that when I change, I don't feel like a stranger with myself. So I decided to wear it around August when things are settled.

So here I am, wearing hijab, proudly, since August 26th.

In 2012, I experienced a lot of unique things or reminders - I would say, which makes me feel uneasy and rush the process of wearing hijab. (1) Around January, out of a sudden, my mom's friend asked me when will I wear hijab. (2) On March, a stranger thought that I'm Christian because I don't wear hijab. (3) Around June-July, my mom's staffs asked me, when should I cover my head like my mom. (4) Around July, a stranger that doesn't know if I'm a Muslim or not, ask me why I don't wear hijab. (5) Uncountable nightmares about not wearing hijab and there was one night I woke up from that nightmares and found tears on my eyes.

 
*Despite all my understandings in each step, there's always one legitimate-undeniable facts that I included in my steps: "There's always good things that comes from believe in Allah and woman looks prettier in front of Allah if they cover their body and head, no matter it's a fashionable clothes or not."
 

Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Practice makes perfect

I believe everyone ever heard those sentence and maybe some of us think that it's just a word. Because sometimes, no matter how hard we've tried, we just can't do it. Moreover, when we see our friends are very good at it, we feel like we are sooo far behind them and we will need such a long time to become like them which will lead us to not wanting to try at all. Well, sometimes it happened to me. One of the examples are: jogging.

I can run pretty fast for 100 - 200m, which called a sprint. But I need to stop and walk if I have to run for more than 200m. And if someone ask me to jog, I can only jog for a few seconds. Weird huh? Don't know why. So I hate to jog, ever since. But recently, I notice that walking and jogging are the easiest exercise. Compared to swimming, you don't have to pack your clothes, shampoo and soap; and the time is quite flexible. You can jog for 15 minutes or even less, if you want to. So it's very easy, and you can do it any time.

So I tried to jog. It was around January and cold. Such a perfect timing to start jogging. And I can only jog for a few seconds, walk and jog again for about an hour. Then I keep on jogging at least once a week.

I realized that I improved! The improvement that I made makes me want to jog more often. I didn't keep a record for some time. But then I realized that I improved A LOT! In July, I was able to jog non-stop for 8 minutes!

Within 6 months, I can jog from a few seconds to 8 minutes! And until now, it keep on increasing, gradually. I feel really amused and proud of myself.
This is the proof that practice does makes perfect! Just wait patiently and see the improvement.

Good luck! :)


Wednesday, May 22, 2013

Change!

I'm reading papers for my thesis and bored with my room. So I go out of the room and sit beside the window. The sound of a rain and a cool wind breeze throughout the room calms my mind. I feel refresh and ready to continue reading bunch of papers.


Go and change something! 
Just to feel new again and to feel the positive energy come rushing into you. 


Saturday, March 17, 2012

Indonesian Culture Exhibition 2012

Last 2-3 weeks, me and other Indonesian friends in NTUST (National Taiwan University of Science and Technology) was so busy preparing this event. It is all about Indonesian culture. We want others to know more about Indonesia and we might even attract tourists to go to Indonesia. For committee, this is the way we can get together as a team to do something nice for our country, to appreciate and remind us how beautiful our culture is. This event was held on 5-7 March 2012.

On the first and the second day (5th - 6th March), we were having an Exhibition. We have 8 booths which represents 6 biggest islands in Indonesia (Sumatra, Kalimatan, Jawa, Bali, Sulawesi and Papua), Edutainment and Culinary. In each island booth, visitors are given the brief information about that island - the traditional clothes and music - and each island has their own unique interactive way. In Edutainment, visitors can take a picture with traditional Indonesian costume, play traditional games, learn how to make "batik" and how to make "ketupat". In Culinary stand, we have lots of Indonesian foods and snacks, such as: "soto", "nasi kuning", "wajik" and others.

On the third day (7th March), in evening, we were having a cultural performance. We gave the audience a story about "The Journey of Gadjah Mada to Unify Nusantara" which we put traditional dances (Jathilan Dance, Saman Dance, Papua Dance, Kecak Dance, Janger Dance and Kayau Dance), choir and "pencak silat" inside the story and in the end, we have a modern dance.

What makes this ICE 2012 different from previous ICE? We have our own theme song originally written by our friend! How nice! I'm really proud of her. The song called "We are Proud Student of Indonesia".

After the performance, we were beyond happy to receive many great compliments, such as: outstanding performance, best performance ever and I'm proud of you guys.
We were really doing a great job. And yes, our 5 months preparation was finally paid off. We were all satisfied, the committee, the performer and the audience. Even though we were far beyond perfect, but we did our best and we reach our target of more than a thousands visitors!

We were really making it happen. We did it! I'm so proud being a part of ICE 2012 team! I'm proud to be Indonesian that has many beautiful and unique culture inside.


Wednesday, February 15, 2012

The four of us :)

Recently, I have 3 close friends to hang out with. We're about in the same age, but with different background and personality. But when we come together, everything fits. We have a lots of fun together. We can talk and laugh about anything. And with them, I forget about all my sadness. All I can do is just have fun!

There are two kinds of friends: the one who listens and gives you advice and the one who doesn't know about your problems, but they can cheer you up. Sometimes a best friend can do both, giving advice and cheering. But some of them can only do one. Like the four of us.

You can't say that they're my best friends, because we barely know each other, but we're close enough to spend the whole two days in a row together :)

And last time, I just realize that actually each one of us has a problem, especially about love, but no one bring it up. No one wants to talk about their problem and neither asking about it. Even when we want to talk about it we're simply saying it with no emotion attach. Then we forget about it and have fun! or sometimes, we're making fun of it, so we can laugh at our own sad stories. Together, we are really good at building a positive energy surround us. We turn everything into something we can laugh about.

These friends tell me that everyone has their own problem. But it doesn't mean you have to be sad all the time. Sometimes you have to put your problems behind and have fun. When you're happy, you can think and act positively, so then you can solve your problem. Like the advice from my previous post: throw away the things that can hurt you and be happy!

I would like to thank them for being around when my days are going down. They help me to go through the path that I used to go with him. So now I'm walking down that road with a smile on my face. Because, the memories about him is no longer exist, it replaced by them :)

Saturday, February 11, 2012

A Simple Advice

This is from my friend's blog. She wrote an advice from one of the greatest women in Indonesia, Fahmi Idris. The advice is simple, I bet everyone already know it. But it really helps when you're down. This advice successfully calms me down and so does my friend. Here's the advice. I'm sorry it is in Indonesian.

Kita wajib mendapatkan kebahagian karena kebahagiaan itu adalah milik kita. Jangan pernah mengantungkan kebahagiaan itu kepada orang lain. Buang jauh-jauh segala sesuatu yang akan membuat kita merasa sakit dan menderita, lupakan dan biarkan dia pergi. Serahkan semua urusan kepada-NYA, karena DIA-lah Tuhan yang maha segalanya.

I try to translate it in English, tho' I'm afraid the meaning change.

We deserve to be happy and we're the one who live our life, so don't put your happiness on someone else hands. Throw away the things that can hurt you, just forget it and let it go. Let God do the rest.

My advice, when you don't know which one is right or wrong, do what makes you happy. It's all that matter. As long as you're happy, you'll be safe. At least, you won't regret your choice that makes you happy.