Ghosting

Bagi yang ngga tau apa itu ghosting, itu tindakan tiba-tiba pergi dari suatu hubungan tanpa kabar. Yak, siapa yang pernah begini atau diginiin?

Ini tindakan yang umum, banyak banget yang ngelakuin. 

Pertanyaannya, is it appropriate/acceptable?

Awalnya aku langsung bilang 'ngga lah, nyebelin banget tiba-tiba pergi ngga bilang-bilang'.. Tapi trus aku mikir.. wait, aku juga pernah ghosting ternyata.. jadi aku menyimpulkan kalau the appropriateness of ghosting depends on the relationship intensity. Eh yaampun, berasa judul skripsi~

1. Hubungannya udah intens

Intens itu seperti daily phone call/meeting selama beberapa minggu. Kalau dihubungan ini dia/kamu ghosting, itu kurang pas. Karena dalam hubungan yang udah tiap hari ketemu/telp itu udah ada sinyal implicit kalau sama-sama nyaman dan kalau tiba-tiba hilang tanpa kabar itu pasti membingungkan buat yang ditinggal. Dalam hubungan ini, keduanya udah invest banyak dan probably berharap banyak juga. Jadi, kalau pergi, akan lebih dihargai klo bilang dulu. Dengan bilang dulu sebelum pergi ini juga artinya orang yang pergi menghargai orang yang ditinggal. Orang yang pergi mikir 'he/she deserve to know'. Tapi kalau dia ghosting, he/she is not worth your attention. Kalau butuh penjelasan/closure, bisa dicoba ditanyain.. Tapi kalau ngga didapet juga, yasudah, give it up.

2.  Hubungannya masih ditahap awal

Misalnya, masih baru chat aja atau ngedate 1-3 kali. Kalau dihubungan ini, rasanya wajar klo ada yang ghosting. Karena masing-masing masih 'test the water'. Mungkin masih ada yang mikir ini sekedar teman. jadi kalau mau pergi harus bilang, malah bakal aneh. Ada kemungkinan yang ditinggal bilang 'emang kita deket?' dan ternyata kedekatannya hanya ilusi semata~ hahaha. Dan yang ditinggal pun ngga bakal pusing mikirin kenapa ditinggal, paling mikir 'ohya mungkin ga cocok aja'. Jadi ghosting dihubungan ini ngga masalah.

3. Ada starting point

 Yang nomer 1-2 itu untuk yang belum ada omongan apa-apa. Tapi kalau udah ada statement suka, 'kita jalanin dulu aja' atau semacamnya, ini harus banget untuk ngomong mengakhiri hubungan (entah apapun itu hubungannya~). And ghosting is strictly prohibited. Kesannya udah dimulai, tapi ngga diakhiri.. kan ngga sopan. Jadi kalau ada yang ghosting dikondisi hubungan ini, itu artinya dia ngga berani bilang.

Kalau menurut kalian gimana? :)

Satu Kata untuk Taiwan

Semua hal itu ada ‘image’-nya. Mulai dari warna, produk, orang, hingga negara, pasti ada gambaran atau pesan yang ingin disampaikan. Image Taiwan dimata saya dalam satu kata itu adalah dewasa. Taiwan itu tenang, fokus dan rendah hati. Dewasa sekali, bukan?

Yang saya perhatikan selama kuliah di Taiwan ini adalah hampir semua dosen disini jarang berpakaian formal ketika lab meeting, mengajar, maupun menguji sidang. Mereka nyaman dengan pakaian kasual mereka. Terlihat sekali mereka berpegang teguh prinsip ‘don’t judge the book by its cover’. Mereka dengan tenang dan yakin bahwa penampilan bukanlah ukuran yang utama dalam menilai orang lain. Mereka percaya kemampuan mereka tetap mampu terpancar keluar dibalik penampilan mereka yang santai. Ini membuat saya nyaman sekali menjadi minioritas dengan memakai hijab. Bahkan keputusan untuk memakai hijab ini ada ketika saya di Taiwan. Saya yakin bahwa mereka tidak akan menyimpulkan sesuatu tentang saya hanya karena penampilan saya.

Indonesia dan Taiwan memang sama-sama memiliki budaya interdependen yang lebih dominan, dibandingkan dengan budaya barat yang dominan dengan budaya independennya. Tapi, Taiwan ini memiliki nilai budaya independen yang lebih tinggi dari Indonesia. Saya melihat dan merasakan bahwa orang Taiwan lebih fokus terhadap diri mereka sendiri. Mereka tidak ingin tau semua urusan pribadi orang lain. Hanya beberapa dosen dan temen lab saya yang bertanya tentang urusan pribadi saya. Semakin lama saya di Taiwan, saya merasa semakin sama pola pikir saya dengan mereka. Saya menjadi fokus dengan diri saya sendiri dan tidak terlalu memikirkan orang lain. Ini yang menguatkan saya selama saya menjalani kuliah ini. Saya fokus menyelesaikan kuliah saya, walaupun teman-teman yang lain tidak melakukan hal yang sama dengan saya. Saya percaya tiap orang punya jalannya masing-masing.

Secara negara, Taiwan ini dibatasi ruang geraknya dengan ‘One China Policy’. Tapi ini tidak membuat Taiwan berhenti bersinar. Taiwan menjadi salah satu negara yang unggul dalam bidang teknologi dan ramah lingkungan. Namun, Taiwan sadar bahwa mereka akan selalu menjadi nomer 2. Secara natural, kesadaran ini membuat mereka menjadi rendah hati dan tidak sombong.  Saya kagum dengan orang-orang Taiwan yang dengan tulus dan sungguh-sungguh menolong orang asing. Saya dengan bahasa Mandarin yang terbatas, mereka dengan bahasa Inggris yang terbata-bata dan kita yang saling mengandalkan bahasa tubuh dan google translate, tidak menghentikan mereka untuk berbuat baik terhadap saya dan orang asing lainnya. Ini hal yang jarang ditemui di negara maju lainnya dan inilah yang membuat Taiwan special dimata orang asing. Ini membuat saya berfikir bahwa kita perlu dengan pintar memutar kekurangan kita menjadi kelebihan. Kita semua lahir dengan kekurangan dan sering kali kekurangan tersebut tidak bisa diperbaiki. Tapi, akan ada kelebihan dibalik kekurangan tersebut, seperti kata pepatah ‘every coin has its two sides’. Kita harus terus berkembang dengan menggunakan kelebihan yang kita punya.

Terima kasih Taiwan yang telah membantu saya untuk berpenampilan, bersikap, dan berfikir lebih dewasa.

Home

Most people would say "home is where the heart is".
But for Third Culture Kid (TCK), "home is everywhere and nowhere" - Ruth Van Reken, 2004

Some of you may have heard about TCK, but if you haven't I'll explain it briefly and you can read more about it from wikipedia (click here) or other sources.

Based on Wikipedia, 

"Third culture kid (TCK) is a term used to refer to children who were raised in a culture outside of their parents’ culture for a significant part of their development years. The experience of being a TCK is unique in that these individuals are moving between cultures before they have had the opportunity to fully develop their personal and cultural identity."

And yes, I'm one of TCK. I may not be as extreme as others who spent their childhood in more than three countries and their parents have different nationalities, but I experience the same feeling as most TCK do. And home is one of TCK's challenges.

"Home is everywhere and nowhere"

That is so TRUE!

Each places that I've lived in has special places in my life and heart. I feel that I belong to those places - all at once - because there were some bonds that we shared. Those places were my witness of all my best and worst times. No place can be replaced by the other.

At the same time, I feel rootless. Though I may have my nationality, but somehow I don't fit in perfectly there - nor anywhere that I've lived in. In fact, I could never perfectly fit in anywhere, as I didn't stay long enough to adopt all their attitudes, behaviors and languages.

So it's kinda in between.

I feel home wherever I go to Indonesia, Australia, Hong Kong and Taiwan.

I can't never decide which one is my first, second, third and fourth home.

These four will always be my home.

-Source: Google (the first two), my own (the last two) 

Upside Down House Exhibition

 

I know it's only turning the furniture upside down and glued in to the wall. Some may think it's not worth the wait (queue) and money. But for some, it is an opportunity to get a fun picture. For me, it's another way to refresh my mind and take a break from research :))

The house was filled up by so many people, so for some spot, we couldn't get a clear and great photos. But the good thing about this exhibition are: they controlled the amount of people inside the house (1), they prepared a place for people to queue, so we can take photos without other people in it (2), there is no time limit, so people can take as many picture and as long as they like (3), once we moved to another room, we cannot go back to the previous ones, so we will not bump into each other (4).

Conan Exhibition

CONAN!

I was super excited to go to the exhibition. Although I need to queue for about one hour, but it was worth it!

After the entrance, there was a wall full of all Conan comic series. 

Then, there was a pop-up picture of all characters in Conan complete with its descriptions, as shown below..

Before entrance, each visitor get one puzzle book and pencil. Visitor are required to solve the murder (the puzzle) inside the exhibition. Since the puzzle and instructions are all in Chinese, I didn't took any pictures. I tried to solve it using Google translate from my phone and a little logic to put it all together. Then, if we can solve it, we get the certification as shown below (the white paper in the middle). The right one is the stamp book that we can buy together with the entrance ticket. There is one free sticker (right one) inside the stamp book.

After solving the puzzle, there are lots and lots of photos, drawings and paintings on Conan. Lastly, there is a figure of Sinichi Kudo and Ran.

          

My first race!

About 19 months ago I wrote about jogging and how much I had improved ("practice makes perfect"). I keep on jogging ever since and it improves bit by bit until I have this thought of entering a marathon race.

Around at the same time, this friend of mine were asking us to join a marathon race of 10K in 2 hours limit. I hesitate that I can finish it in time, cause I never run that far. So she searched again and find a 5K marathon in 2 hours, with a cheaper fee. Well, I think I can do this, then I thought. I used to run about 3K in 30 minutes, so I definitely can finish this in time.

So me and three of my friends joined the marathon. It was my first time. So I was excited for the whole afternoon. The feeling of running with hundreds of people together is really intense. While running, I managed to saw and examined few families with either one or two children running together. I felt so happy just seeing them gather together running and caring about exercising and healthy.

I finished my race in 45 minutes with nonstop run/jog. A faster pace than my usual run. In the end, I learned that racing is not about comparing yourself to others nor how fast you can go. But it's about knowing yourself. Knowing your own pace and ability to finish it and beat your own personal goal, without being intimidated or tempted by others.

Who would have thought that this girl, who barely finished a 400m race in high school, now can run a 5K race, nonstop in 45 minutes?

I proved it that anything is possible, as long as you try. And yes, practice makes perfect.

Beauty with[out] make up :)

This is a video with a beautiful message by Colbie Caillat, titled Try.

When the first time this video was launch, many people commented on it, including pros and cons. I was going to write about it, but I couldn't find a time to write. So here I am now, commenting about the video, about make up, mostly.

This video is saying that don't put on a mask so that everybody likes you. Don't put your make up on if you don't want to. Don't excersice just to get a compliment from others. Make up and excercise is not wrong, the purpose is.

And yes, every woman should know that they are beautiful. So I don't think put some make up every day, every moment is neccessary. 

For me, make up is only for work - when it's required to. If you work behind the desk and you don't want to wear make up, you can just look natural but make sure you have enough sleep so you'll look fresh. I'm sure they don't mind. Because the point of using make up is just to look neat and professional. If you look fresh and behave, I'm sure you'll look professional and neat already. *Hey, man don't wear make up to work, why should we (woman)?

If you want to wear make up, before wearing it, make sure you like yourself first. So wearing make up is not for you to hide your fear, but to boost up your confidence. It maybe sounds the same thing, but the focus are different. If you wear make up when you feel you can't blend in and not comfortable with yourself, then don't. Wear it when you are happy and comfortable, so make up can only make you happier.

When you like yourself, then you don't want to wear make up. You'll think that 'I like the way I look now, why should I put some make up?'. Only, some other time - perhaps special occasion - when you feel like you want to look differently - in a good way. I'll say that make up goes in line with your wardrobe. If you look everyday casual, then no need make up. But if there's special occasion, you'll wear something special obviously, so you may wear some make up.

But if you wear make up every time - outside work, ask yourself why you wear make up. Because for me, wearing make up is a sign of insecurities if you use it almost every time.

This post is for those girls that wears make up everyday. A childhood friend of mine is one of them. I feel like I want to tell her that "you don't need those make up to look pretty, you ARE beautiful and I even like they way you look naturally".

Kehilangan..

I found this on Facebook. This is exactly what I was thinking when I was in a process of wearing hijab: http://anisalarasati.blogspot.tw/2013/09/my-new-look.html

 

Quick reminder

Pernikahan itu sesuatu yang agung.

Pernikahan itu untuk jangka panjang.

Bila sudah menikah, jagalah baik-baik janji suci dan komitmen anda. 

Begitu juga dengan perbuatan dan pandangan anda. 

Suatu hal yang lucu dulu, bisa jadi suatu hal yang tidak pantas utk dilakukan ketika anda sudah menikah. 

Persoalan rumah tangga apapun yang ada, selesaikanlah, jangan mencari pelarian diluar. 

Think twice or even triple before you act.

Pardon me, yang tidak tau banyak tentang pernikahan. This is just a quick message for everyone - married and married to be -. I know it's basics and cliche, but I found that we all need to be reminded once in a while.

Let it go ~

I'm never going back, the past is in the past

Let it go ~

Let it go ~

[Let it go - Frozen]

Yes, as the song told us: let it go, people!

We all have our own past, which can be pretty bad and it might be because of someone else's fault. It's our right to be mad and blame ourselves or them who hurt us. But it won't take us anywhere. The pain, anger and maybe shame or regret will always haunt us if we still look back at the past. The past is happened for us to take the lesson. So when we know all about the past that happened to us (why, how and who's fault), we have to accept, forgive, learn and move on.

If you still can't forgive the person that hurt you, then everytime you have a problem, you will always blame them. In that case, you will not be able to find a good solution for your current problem and you will be surrounded by all the negative feelings that will drag you down. And nothing good can come out from negative feelings.

Blaming the past that will not talk back to you, nor giving any solution, is just pathetic. It's like blaming a dead person. Yes, in case you haven't notice, the past is dead.

I know letting go is not easy, but just take a baby step forward at each time. It needs process, but the important thing is you move on, no matter how far it is.

Good Luck! :)

Trust and Promise

Trust.

Don't you ever take someone's trust for granted. Once you lose it, you'll never get it back - even so, it will never be the same. Kepercayaan itu sesuatu yang istimewa, karena ngga semua orang aku kasih kepercayaan. So please keep it. Aku pasti memaklumi dan tetep positive thinking untuk kejadian yang pertama, kedua, maupun ketiga.. and I take all your excuses. Tapi tidak untuk yang kesekian kalinya. 

Another thing is, I am usually hurt when someone betrays my trust. Because I never see it coming.. never thought that they would do anything to hurt me, NEVER. Well yes, maybe I'm not careful enough in selecting whom I shoud trust.. Oops, my bad..

Promise.

Don't promise on something you can't keep. Hati-hati, lidah itu senjata yang paling tajam. Aku paling ngga suka kalau ada yang ngga menepati janji. At least, say something: re-schedule or re-organizing.. just don't leave me out of the blue! Again, aku pasti memaklumi untuk beberapa kali kejadian. Tapi tidak untuk yang kesekian kalinya.

Dia aku percaya, tapi ngga menepati janji dan hilang gitu aja? that is the worst person ever.

Dan biasanya, setelah sekian lama nunggu, positive thinking, dan masih percaya, tapi orang itu belum juga menepati janjinya.. I'm giving up, very dissapointed.. and of course, they'll lose my trust..

Cukup tau, learn my lesson and move on..

Passion

I consider myself living my life with passion, rather than dreams.

I may not have a huge dream or a detailed ones, but every seconds of my life is full of passion. I have quite a lot of passions: writing, reading, jogging, cycling, swimming, knitting, handcrafts, analyzing, leading, travelling, adventure, violin, piano, language, french, mandarin, new things, hiking, sleeping. My life is guided by my passions. Everything I do is always related to these passions, because if you do things with passion, you can always will be able to keep on going and give 100%.

When people ask me: 'What do you want to do in the future?' I may answer it with a standard answer that even I don't know if I able to pursue it. I'm more kind of thinking in step by step. Well, I know what step I will take after, but it's not detailed yet. I focused on the current step, instead. Focus, find my passions in it, have fun and no regrets. Alhamdulillah, so far, I never do things that is not my passions and that I regreted.

I'm not saying living your live in dream is wrong. It's just people have different ways in living their lives and this is my way :)

Better yet, you need to have dreams, and living your life with passions to get your dreams :)

The truth

I'm a big fan of 'asking'. If you don't know, ask. If you're not sure, ask. If you're curious ask.

Things are so much easier when we all be honest and transparent to each other.

Not knowing makes us assuming and in some cases, even overthinking.

We can't assume on everything, unless we assume in every possible condition. And we shouldn't overthink, 'cause usually things are not as complicated as we thought.

On the other hand, most of the time we can't answer some questions. The answer would be 'I don't know why', 'I just did it', 'I just knew', 'I felt like it', 'I don't realize when', etc. People may or may not say the truth for some reasons.

If you asked and got an answer like that, try to look at their attitude and their eyes.

People can say anything, but eyes can't lie. 

It's a biology reaction that our pupils will get bigger/dilated when we are excited and smaller/constricted when we are upset. Evenmore, eyes can tell you more than anything. Two peoples can communicate only by looking at their eyes. There are also other reflects that we can observed from people, such as eyes & hands movement. 

People can fake to behave in certain ways, but their attitude remain unchanged. 

Behavior can only stay in a short term while attitude stay forever. Attitude is something that they have inside them. Some values and belief that they carry on. You will know why and how people make decision based on their attitude. Attitude can be discovered by analyzing their background information or work with them.

So, just observed! I'm sure the answer is there, but you're not aware of that.
If you care enough about the answer, take a second to look. People can't hide it all the time :)

'Udah ada tanggalnya'

Ketika ngomongin pernikahan, selalu aku jawab: "belum ada calonnya" atau "masih belum nemu calonnya". Lalu saat itu dijawab oleh seorang istri ustadz:

"Tenang aja, udah ada tanggal yang ditetapkan oleh Allah kok untuk mba Nisa.. 'Mba Nisa dengan siapa, pada tanggal sekian..' gitu"

Simple. Tapi ngena banget. Mengingatkanku kembali bahwa jodoh itu sudah ada yang atur. I don't need to worry anymore and let Allah handle it. 

To all jomblo (including me :p):

Jadi, udah ngga perlu lagi galau kalo gebetan menjauh, bingung kalo ngga ada yang ngedeketin atau sedih pas gebetan punya pacar baru. Semua udah diatur kok, ngapain dipikirin? mending mikirin sekolahan, kuliah, kerja, hobi baru, keterampilan baru, tambahin wawasan, tambahin teman, dll.

Gunakan waktu berhargamu dengan kegiatan positif! :)

FAITH :)

I got those words from "International Muslim Exhibition Culture" in my campus on November 2012. Since then, these words keep spinning in my head. It kept telling me that I need to have a bigger faith, especially when it comes to hijab. It really pushes me through my hard times. 

And now I can smile while reading it because I know I just beat my fears down and wear my hijab on :)

I'm so glad I got this message. It really helped me through.

So guys, whatever things you're dealing with, "Let your faith be bigger than your fears".

Practice makes perfect

I believe everyone ever heard those sentence and maybe some of us think that it's just a word. Because sometimes, no matter how hard we've tried, we just can't do it. Moreover, when we see our friends are very good at it, we feel like we are sooo far behind them and we will need such a long time to become like them which will lead us to not wanting to try at all. Well, sometimes it happened to me. One of the examples are: jogging.

I can run pretty fast for 100 - 200m, which called a sprint. But I need to stop and walk if I have to run for more than 200m. And if someone ask me to jog, I can only jog for a few seconds. Weird huh? Don't know why. So I hate to jog, ever since. But recently, I notice that walking and jogging are the easiest exercise. Compared to swimming, you don't have to pack your clothes, shampoo and soap; and the time is quite flexible. You can jog for 15 minutes or even less, if you want to. So it's very easy, and you can do it any time.

So I tried to jog. It was around January and cold. Such a perfect timing to start jogging. And I can only jog for a few seconds, walk and jog again for about an hour. Then I keep on jogging at least once a week.

I realized that I improved! The improvement that I made makes me want to jog more often. I didn't keep a record for some time. But then I realized that I improved A LOT! In July, I was able to jog non-stop for 8 minutes!

Within 6 months, I can jog from a few seconds to 8 minutes! And until now, it keep on increasing, gradually. I feel really amused and proud of myself.
This is the proof that practice does makes perfect! Just wait patiently and see the improvement.

Good luck! :)

Complicated

Aku terlalu sombong.
Terlalu yakin bahwa aku bisa melewatinya.
Bahwa ini sama dengan yang lainnya.
That I'll be fine and go on.

Tidak pernah sekalipun terbesit dalam pikiranku bahwa aku tidak bisa.
Karena kondisinya akan selalu mendukungku untuk melewatinya, pikirku.

Tapi aku lupa.
Lupa bahwa tidak ada yang tidak mungkin di dunia ini.
Everything's possible.

Ternyata kondisinya mengagetkan.
Kondisinya sangat tidak mendukung.
Kondisinya sangat complicated.

Karena aku tidak pernah memikirkan skenario ini, aku tidak siap.
No back up plans.
I screwed up.

Well, I realized, nothing is ever too late to try.

Aku mencoba untuk sadar.
Dan perlahan melepasnya.

One thing I believe in is that "The storm will eventually pass" and I'll be stronger than ever.

Life's tests

Do you know that life will give you a test that will gets harder and harder along the way?

When you had accomplished one test, you will be able to handle it in case it comes back. So the second time the test comes back, it is not a test for you anymore. Because it's easy for you to get through it. A test is when you find it hard to stand up and sometimes you may feel like giving up.

So, eventually you will get a harder test, which means, you're 'UP' one level. You'll realized that the test is so hard which somewhat impossible to be existed, but it did. And it's there for you to solve it. If you think that it's so hard, take a minute to look back in the past. Recall everything you've been through. Then you'll realized that you've been through a lot, which proves that you're strong enough to handle another test.

And yes, now I'm in the middle of a hard test. I have to step back from something and someone I like, when 'that things' are keep on coming at me. This will not be hard when I don't like it, so it's easy for me to step back. Or even when I like it, but it doesn't like me back, it's also easy to look forward and forget about it. 

But now, when I want to look away, it always coming back at me, makes me weak and holding me from stepping back. I know I need to be strong to fight with my own feelings, which is not easy at all. I am trying to always keep my faith, be patient and pray :). Hopefully I can hang on until it's done.

'Things will be perfect at a perfect time'

Ever heard that notion? or not exactly like that but has the same meaning. I guess everybody ever heard it before. This words - or you can call it quotes - are used to motivate people when bad things are happening to them. It gives them the strength to let go and wish that there are something better for them in the near future.

I don't know if it works, but sometimes it does works for me. It makes me stop worrying and keep positive about what's happening. And actually here, I want to share that, this quote is really true.

It started when I was in my last year of primary school. I wish two things about how my junior high school life would be: part of an organization, and/or part of a dance club. Well, things turned out differently. There are no dance club and I didn't have a chance to be in an organization, because the teacher should recommend you to get in the organization. So then I let go of my dream and pass it for the senior high school. I wasn't mad, I enjoyed myself learning until I got top position in class.

In senior high school, I moved to Hong Kong. So instead of join any extracurricular activities, I learn my ass off to adapt and graduate in one and a half year. Again, I pass my dream to college.

I was putting a high expectation into college life. Since I'm back into my home town, so no adaption needed and college students are mature enough to make decision about organization. So I expected to have a high chance of making a dream come true. But life does not always giving what you want. The selection to be in an organization is that you need to join a-3-days-2 nights-outside-the-campus- camp. Since in Indonesia is not that safe, I'm a girl and there are no teacher supervising the camp, I'm not allowed to go, which means I'm not be able to join the organization. The same thing happens for the dance club. Life's bitter, I know. And I was thinking that life's not fair. I was kinda mad and blaming the situation, because I was thinking that college is my last chance to make it all happen.

Life is unpredictable, I would say. My plans for getting my master degree was changed, from getting it in Jakarta to Taipei. And surprisingly, in the place where I study now (NTUST) has lots and lots of Indonesian people, which makes it possible to form an Indonesian Student Association (ISA). There's no specific requirement to be a member, so I join it directly, without hesitation. Another blessing is that I was offered to dance Saman. And there are a lot of performing, which I - of course - really enjoyed it.

Now, in my second year, I'm a secretary in NTUST-ISA, a legislative board of ISA in Taiwan and a coordinator of Saman dance club. There goes my dream come true. I'll never imagine any other possible situation that is better that this. I really thank God for all these opportunities and I won't take any of these for granted.

See? It's really happening. As long as you keep trying and not wasting any chances you've got, things will be really perfect at a perfect time.

A Simple Advice

This is from my friend's blog. She wrote an advice from one of the greatest women in Indonesia, Fahmi Idris. The advice is simple, I bet everyone already know it. But it really helps when you're down. This advice successfully calms me down and so does my friend. Here's the advice. I'm sorry it is in Indonesian.

Kita wajib mendapatkan kebahagian karena kebahagiaan itu adalah milik kita. Jangan pernah mengantungkan kebahagiaan itu kepada orang lain. Buang jauh-jauh segala sesuatu yang akan membuat kita merasa sakit dan menderita, lupakan dan biarkan dia pergi. Serahkan semua urusan kepada-NYA, karena DIA-lah Tuhan yang maha segalanya.

I try to translate it in English, tho' I'm afraid the meaning change.

We deserve to be happy and we're the one who live our life, so don't put your happiness on someone else hands. Throw away the things that can hurt you, just forget it and let it go. Let God do the rest.

My advice, when you don't know which one is right or wrong, do what makes you happy. It's all that matter. As long as you're happy, you'll be safe. At least, you won't regret your choice that makes you happy.

(My friend's blog: http://tunsriana.wordpress.com/)