Beauty with[out] make up :)

This is a video with a beautiful message by Colbie Caillat, titled Try.

When the first time this video was launch, many people commented on it, including pros and cons. I was going to write about it, but I couldn't find a time to write. So here I am now, commenting about the video, about make up, mostly.

This video is saying that don't put on a mask so that everybody likes you. Don't put your make up on if you don't want to. Don't excersice just to get a compliment from others. Make up and excercise is not wrong, the purpose is.

And yes, every woman should know that they are beautiful. So I don't think put some make up every day, every moment is neccessary. 

For me, make up is only for work - when it's required to. If you work behind the desk and you don't want to wear make up, you can just look natural but make sure you have enough sleep so you'll look fresh. I'm sure they don't mind. Because the point of using make up is just to look neat and professional. If you look fresh and behave, I'm sure you'll look professional and neat already. *Hey, man don't wear make up to work, why should we (woman)?

If you want to wear make up, before wearing it, make sure you like yourself first. So wearing make up is not for you to hide your fear, but to boost up your confidence. It maybe sounds the same thing, but the focus are different. If you wear make up when you feel you can't blend in and not comfortable with yourself, then don't. Wear it when you are happy and comfortable, so make up can only make you happier.

When you like yourself, then you don't want to wear make up. You'll think that 'I like the way I look now, why should I put some make up?'. Only, some other time - perhaps special occasion - when you feel like you want to look differently - in a good way. I'll say that make up goes in line with your wardrobe. If you look everyday casual, then no need make up. But if there's special occasion, you'll wear something special obviously, so you may wear some make up.

But if you wear make up every time - outside work, ask yourself why you wear make up. Because for me, wearing make up is a sign of insecurities if you use it almost every time.

This post is for those girls that wears make up everyday. A childhood friend of mine is one of them. I feel like I want to tell her that "you don't need those make up to look pretty, you ARE beautiful and I even like they way you look naturally".

Trust and Promise

Trust.

Don't you ever take someone's trust for granted. Once you lose it, you'll never get it back - even so, it will never be the same. Kepercayaan itu sesuatu yang istimewa, karena ngga semua orang aku kasih kepercayaan. So please keep it. Aku pasti memaklumi dan tetep positive thinking untuk kejadian yang pertama, kedua, maupun ketiga.. and I take all your excuses. Tapi tidak untuk yang kesekian kalinya. 

Another thing is, I am usually hurt when someone betrays my trust. Because I never see it coming.. never thought that they would do anything to hurt me, NEVER. Well yes, maybe I'm not careful enough in selecting whom I shoud trust.. Oops, my bad..

Promise.

Don't promise on something you can't keep. Hati-hati, lidah itu senjata yang paling tajam. Aku paling ngga suka kalau ada yang ngga menepati janji. At least, say something: re-schedule or re-organizing.. just don't leave me out of the blue! Again, aku pasti memaklumi untuk beberapa kali kejadian. Tapi tidak untuk yang kesekian kalinya.

Dia aku percaya, tapi ngga menepati janji dan hilang gitu aja? that is the worst person ever.

Dan biasanya, setelah sekian lama nunggu, positive thinking, dan masih percaya, tapi orang itu belum juga menepati janjinya.. I'm giving up, very dissapointed.. and of course, they'll lose my trust..

Cukup tau, learn my lesson and move on..

The truth

I'm a big fan of 'asking'. If you don't know, ask. If you're not sure, ask. If you're curious ask.

Things are so much easier when we all be honest and transparent to each other.

Not knowing makes us assuming and in some cases, even overthinking.

We can't assume on everything, unless we assume in every possible condition. And we shouldn't overthink, 'cause usually things are not as complicated as we thought.

On the other hand, most of the time we can't answer some questions. The answer would be 'I don't know why', 'I just did it', 'I just knew', 'I felt like it', 'I don't realize when', etc. People may or may not say the truth for some reasons.

If you asked and got an answer like that, try to look at their attitude and their eyes.

People can say anything, but eyes can't lie. 

It's a biology reaction that our pupils will get bigger/dilated when we are excited and smaller/constricted when we are upset. Evenmore, eyes can tell you more than anything. Two peoples can communicate only by looking at their eyes. There are also other reflects that we can observed from people, such as eyes & hands movement. 

People can fake to behave in certain ways, but their attitude remain unchanged. 

Behavior can only stay in a short term while attitude stay forever. Attitude is something that they have inside them. Some values and belief that they carry on. You will know why and how people make decision based on their attitude. Attitude can be discovered by analyzing their background information or work with them.

So, just observed! I'm sure the answer is there, but you're not aware of that.
If you care enough about the answer, take a second to look. People can't hide it all the time :)

Date A Diplomat's Daughter

Date a diplomat's daughter. She values all the available time at her best because she knows there will be a time that she'll leave to another place. She has various idea to plan every moment and yet still be flexible as the leaving time is unpredictable and keep changing in the very last minute. Being together is all she's ever wanted. Simple. 

Date a diplomat's daughter. Since she moves to a new place at least every 3 years, it makes her easy to be friend with. You always have enough time to tell her anything and she'll always ready to listen. Simply because she knows when to speak and to listen as her parents taught her how to behave in diplomatic way. She's also always look at different point of view of something, since different countries have different ways of saying things. So, to fight is not her thing. She may want to argue or debate just to find out why and how out of her curiosity. 

Date a diplomat's daughter. You won't find any hard time to adjust. Give her anything, take her anywhere and she will accept and appreciate everything without complaining as she's been through every possible situation. Better yet, she's very into an adventure, surprise her. You can also talk almost everything with her. Being in foreign countries broadens her knowledge world-widely - economy, politic, law, culture, language - you name it.

Date a diplomat's daughter. She knows how to handle herself and people around her. Trying to live and survive in a new country, makes her able to take care of everything - household problems included. Although she's been through a lot, she still manages to look strong and happy. Because of this, she grows up quickly, becomes more mature and able to adapt fast.

Date a diplomat's daughter. She has strong moral values to hold on into. As environment and friends are changing, she needs a solid ground to keep her in the right path. You can always rely on her and never get disappointed.

Date a diplomat's daughter. It may be hard to keep relationship in a distance, but once she chooses you, she believes that it will works. Since she moves frequently, she only get a chance to trust a few people. If you're the one that she trusts, keep it; or else you'll never get it back.

Note: It only applies when the daughter moves together with her parents after - at least - 2 different foreign countries.

Thank you viewers :)

Besides writing my own blog, I also read others. Some of their writing really inspires me, or motivates me in such a way. But then, I didn't realized that there's someone who really read my blog. I thought my blog only pops up when someone search specific words, and they close it right away after they found out that this is not the one they've been looking for.

After a while, I learnt from the stats that some of them are really reading it and the stats are keep increasing from time to time. It really is a surprise for me. My friends that knew this blog also commented that I have a really nice writing and inspiring story.

I feel so glad that someone is inspired or at least they enjoy reading it. It motivates me to keep on writing. 

Although blogging is just another way to share my days, but knowing that people are reading it, I'm thrilled.

Thank you for anyone who reads it :)

Life's tests

Do you know that life will give you a test that will gets harder and harder along the way?

When you had accomplished one test, you will be able to handle it in case it comes back. So the second time the test comes back, it is not a test for you anymore. Because it's easy for you to get through it. A test is when you find it hard to stand up and sometimes you may feel like giving up.

So, eventually you will get a harder test, which means, you're 'UP' one level. You'll realized that the test is so hard which somewhat impossible to be existed, but it did. And it's there for you to solve it. If you think that it's so hard, take a minute to look back in the past. Recall everything you've been through. Then you'll realized that you've been through a lot, which proves that you're strong enough to handle another test.

And yes, now I'm in the middle of a hard test. I have to step back from something and someone I like, when 'that things' are keep on coming at me. This will not be hard when I don't like it, so it's easy for me to step back. Or even when I like it, but it doesn't like me back, it's also easy to look forward and forget about it. 

But now, when I want to look away, it always coming back at me, makes me weak and holding me from stepping back. I know I need to be strong to fight with my own feelings, which is not easy at all. I am trying to always keep my faith, be patient and pray :). Hopefully I can hang on until it's done.

The four of us :)

Recently, I have 3 close friends to hang out with. We're about in the same age, but with different background and personality. But when we come together, everything fits. We have a lots of fun together. We can talk and laugh about anything. And with them, I forget about all my sadness. All I can do is just have fun!

There are two kinds of friends: the one who listens and gives you advice and the one who doesn't know about your problems, but they can cheer you up. Sometimes a best friend can do both, giving advice and cheering. But some of them can only do one. Like the four of us.

You can't say that they're my best friends, because we barely know each other, but we're close enough to spend the whole two days in a row together :)

And last time, I just realize that actually each one of us has a problem, especially about love, but no one bring it up. No one wants to talk about their problem and neither asking about it. Even when we want to talk about it we're simply saying it with no emotion attach. Then we forget about it and have fun! or sometimes, we're making fun of it, so we can laugh at our own sad stories. Together, we are really good at building a positive energy surround us. We turn everything into something we can laugh about.

These friends tell me that everyone has their own problem. But it doesn't mean you have to be sad all the time. Sometimes you have to put your problems behind and have fun. When you're happy, you can think and act positively, so then you can solve your problem. Like the advice from my previous post: throw away the things that can hurt you and be happy!

I would like to thank them for being around when my days are going down. They help me to go through the path that I used to go with him. So now I'm walking down that road with a smile on my face. Because, the memories about him is no longer exist, it replaced by them :)

My Best Friends!

In this winter vacation, I go back to Indonesia, my home country. My purpose is to go Umrah, go to my grandma's place, buy some Indonesian traditional things for our up coming event and meet my best friends! I'm so happy, because all the plan went smooth and I almost finish with the list!

On Tuesday evening I met my very best friend in university, with an initial 'P'. She's working now, so I got to meet her in the evening. Actually it's not enough, because I can't stay out late. Well, the time will never be enough with me and her. We always have something to share with. So at that night, in our-precious-3-hour-time, each of us pick one important subject to share in details, then we gave comment and inside joke. It's nice to know that she doesn't change. She's still a girl I always run into when I have a problem and always will, I guess. After a nice chat, we walked around, we commented on everything we saw, clothes, necklace, everything. And again, her taste doesn't change either. The last stop was a photobox booth, we took the photo packages two times. Why? because of our silliness! and yes that is the same kind of silliness we did back there. Even though we had a limited time, but I'm satisfied, I'm so happy to meet her :)

I have another best friend in university and I was hoping to meet her at the same time with 'P'. But because of the time, I did not set it up. So I met her on Thursday, instead. Call her 'R'. She's also working, but with her family in her hometown. And she's here, back to town. So this time I can meet up early. We met around noon. I accompanied her to an English test preparation, then went to EX. We had lunch in Chinese restaurant, but before, my friend thought it was a Japanese restaurant, haha. And we spent 3 hours in that restaurant! We talked about everything. First about guys then about ourselves, our future. We seldom talk about the future, and at that time we also don't know why we end up talking about it. But it was a fun conversation. When we want to pay the bill, we kinda surprised, because it was more than 200 thousands rupiah! It is because they don't put the price on the menu, so we didn't know how much it costs. And finally we get out from that restaurant, and I just realized that the waitress shift is changed! haha well, that explains how long we've stayed there. Then we look around the mall and we moved to GI. She's looking for a shirt, a stripe shirt and yes, the same kind of shirt she used to wear. But after 1,5 hours walking around, she didn't found any shirt she likes. Then we had a lite dinner at KFC, we took photos afterward and went back home.

I'm really happy, cause I can spent a quality time together with my best friends. Even though the three of us can't meet together, but we still had so much fun together. Friends are one of the best thing you ever have in your live. So when you have a best friends, keep them and don't take them for granted :)